Why October?

cause they aren't looking at medical waivers until then

it was august but now october

Well at least it's something.

no it's not. i went to meps end of april and now it's july and it'll be october before i hear anything at all

i just want an answer so i can go on with my life. if it's a no there are other branches. if it's yes, then i get to pick any college

That's how the Army works.

how many months to get one little answer?!

Things have to be done on their time, Carla.

stupid military. i want an answer now. i should have gotten one three/four months ago

Carla, Jaclyn and Morgan are right... the military is a shit-ton of "hurry up and wait".

It's just a reality of this life... I realize it's a hard reality to come to but it's one that needs to be seen.

i just don't know what to do anymore. my future is hanging on the line here. the next year or so are the most important ever. College, will

the military pay for it, will i be in the military, will i start my senior year and be in the military. so much is riding on one answer

I am aware that your future hangs in the balance so to speak here Carla... as we all are.

However, the "hurry up and wait" way with the military is in full-force here.

yeah, but it's just one stupid little answer. i'm ready to throw in the towel

Sometimes the most simple answers take the longest to get with the military.

I hope you get the answer you want... but also hope you realize that this is just the beginning of what you're in for.

i know, thanks

i'm worried about basic and going to college. i filled out paperwork to gradaute early. so jan i won't have anything to do if i don't

go to basic that month. i don't want to be home and i haven't even started college stuff. so i'm screwed

You may have no choice but to be at home for however long after you graduate before you

leave for basic... the military works on its own timetable, regardless of what we want.

i know. but how about what we need? it's supposed to take care of it's own. and even if i don't get in i'm still part because of my guy

It's a COMPLETELY different relationship between the military and the SOs and the military and the actual members.

The military takes care of its own, true... the actual members are the only ones who are basically guaranteed to have that apply.

It doesn't always extend to the loved ones... so we have to create our own support systems.

That's why we're here... we support each other.

yeah, i already knew that one. ya'll are really close. anyone can tell, but i wasn't talking about that. i meant like paying for college

and if the SO goes active then a place to stay on base if they need housing on base.

i know it's not good for an SO but it's still connected to the military and that's important to me at this point. but if God sends me to a

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but unless you're married, those type of things don't extend to you... in the eyes of the military

you're "just a girlfriend"... no long-term commitment to the military member.

man not in the military. i'll still go with it, but the pass two/three years all my life has been the military

Therefore, they have no responsibility to significant other if there is no marriage.

i know, but if everything goes as it appears to be going then maybe some day i'll marry him. i know girlfriends don't get anything.

Don't bank of the fact that one day you'll be "the wife"... there are no guarantees, especially in this life.

i know a lot of things just from sitting and listening to yall, recruiters, looking on the internet. i just dont like waiting no matter what

Agreed Big... we bitch to each other cause we can't always bitch to the military.

As would I... if I didn't have ya'll to tell me to shut up and deal, I'd lose it for sure.

By the same token, if I didn't have ya'll to turn to when it gets bad... I'd be up a creek too.

Anyhow Carla, my point being that Morgan is right... as are the rest of the ladies.

just breathe a little bit and have things lined up so that you can have school paid for if this doesn't pull through. shit happens, the

military could care less. if that means waiting then so be it! Suck it up and know that you are not in any position to tell them when to get

you the information that you want. You can only hope that things will work out for the best...

Erin's right. It happens. you suck it up and deal with it because you can't change it.

I think you expect too much from the military. They don't do anything they don't have to right then if they can put it off

The girls put it perfectly.