this is causing me great stress...

u should just let it as it is and blow ur mind up about it CelluloidPixie be honest and he should understand.

so tricky...

*why* pray tell, is he not invited. It sounds as if he's family already

do it like a bandaid: quickly & get it over with & give him a lollipop afterwards for not crying

*rip it off like a bandaid

my parents have invested so much in other people that my brother and I have dated, they decided until I get engaged, no bfs at family stuff

mostly cause the last girl my brother dated broke his heart in a million pieces and now we hate her.

haha, I like boomer's way... Now I gotta get some lollipops...

all that, and they kinda don't really like him... they do but they don't.

ask

haha, i wish Jeff.

ask what May?

if he's invited - simplest solutions

oh, yeah, no... he is for sure not invited. ''Family only''. Sorry, should have been more clear

i was just unsure of how to tell him... "Hey sweetie... so my parents don't want you at my dad's birthday dinner. sorry."

guessing the bf has already picked up on the vibes from your family & won't be surprised or hurt

haha, maybe I can sneak him scraps under the table... Yeah, I'm hoping he won't freak out and have his feelings really hurt

i know I would have my feeling hurt if his mom didn't invite me to a party. It's like high school all over again...

been there, done that. just explain the whole brother thing and explain that parents don't want to get hurt. Then talk to parents about

how its hurting your relationship. My inlaws still don't want to get close to me cause theyre afraid that hubby and I won't last

that's so annoying... like this relationship isn't hard enough. thanks a lot, people i love! ha ha. Thanks guys...

btw: big diff between bf/gf not being invited vs. spouse/partner not being invited - makes me wonder about their definition of "family"

lol yeah - i know what you mean

I hear ya Jeff... I'm already planning to have my wedding far away so my extended red neck family...

can

come... sorry, having computer issues!

*can't

I wish!!!

no, I spill my coffee on my keyboard and now it's glitchy and sticky... getting a new one soon.

you can put a keyboard under clean running water - don't forget to unplug it

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send him apicyure of your family doing this to him.

I don't think that would go over well bigdoc1111 haha

Jeff, not recommended that you eat whatever falls out of your keyboard...

suggests telling the bf how much it's hurting you that your family are being stupid. And taking your Dad a present from him as guilt!

I like spiderkitten's suggestion lol kill them with kindness