An uncle of mine, my late mother's eldest sister's husband, has offered me a job to teach English as a way to work toward licensure

But there's a few ..... big downsides

It's in Pennsylvania lol

I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST PA. Hello, whole family born and raised Philly

But I am just happy with being in VA again, tbh

But also the job itself iiiiiis

at a religious school

Of a religion I do not practice (but my uncle thinks I do because I am sweet and kind and obviously that means I must be good at said religion?)

But also this uncle iiiis

Ah. Well. Hmn. It's hard to explain. But I may hold a grudge

This uncle and aunt cut off their son, my cousin and godfather, because he came out as gay to them.

AND WHILE I HAVE NEVER CONFIRMED this with them directly, my uncle who passed over the summer (younger brother to said aunt, only brother to my mother) let it slip one time and it makes a lot of sense I don't think he was trying to stir drama from nothing

They have since reconciled with my cousin. He even attended the funeral of the uncle who spilled the beans. But I wasn't really able to talk with him. I was too shocked to see him

Before that funeral I hadn't seen him since I was about 8 or 9 years old. So a good quarter century of no contact

The woman was too stunned to speak.

Anyway, I bring this up because, while I am veery glad my aunt and uncle have tried to reconcile with my cousin because their health is failing and they are old and they wanted that peace FOR THEMSELVES before they die

I don't think I could work for a religious group that encouraged their initial actions in the first place

Oh, important side note

My uncle is a pastor at this religious school

He has a lot of .. sway on making a teaching position for me happen. It's very sweet of him. I can see him wanting what's best for me very much

honestly....................................

lol uhuh...

even if it's coming from a place of good intentions i'd still be aaa at working at a religious school where i dont practice the religion and knowing how he treated his son

Yeah, I think that's kind of where I'm at

But I think I'll have to turn him down with "I'd rather be in VA right now"

yeah

Which isn't wrong, but it's not even scratching the truth as to why

yeeeaaaaah

Honestly, if it was at any other school I would probably consider

Because on the other hand, it's a good way to at least use that family connection to reconnect with my cousin

Ironic, really

But just the religion being what caused the disconnect in the first place, I just don't think I could do it. I'd be bitter and resentful

Which is kinda weird because, again, the initial cut off happened when I was smol and being smol I was never told why and he just disappeared from conversation and became taboo to mention

My mom said "he did something bad" I remember that when I asked about it

She was also very religious

The world has changed a lot though since she passed in 2003, I can't hold the glimpses of ignorance I witnessed as a kid against her

Also she dead so

But anyway, OOF. I feel like it's an opportunity missed because I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE MONEY but

I guess I'll stick to what I'm doing now

honestly, even without the religion thing, I would have personally skipped it because nepotism hires always spell trouble

Yeeeeeeeeaaaaah the potential for problems is high

if it was just a "the place I work has an opening" that would be one thing, even with the person being family, but if he has sway on the position existing and who fills it, that's giving me all sorts of red flags

From my understanding, they have a position for English opening up in the Fall so he was essentially offering to put my name into the list even though I don't have the qualifications (licensure) that they would want

I think because they aren't a public school it kind of bypasses the usual state requirements? I honestly don't really understand it

But I do agree, his position in relation to the school and the offer to push me through the process is concerning

yeah, if they don't get state funding or federal funding, then they don't have to meet the standers set by them, for better of worse

usually worse