...There is a certain point in resolving mental issues where challenging the border of one's comfort becomes very confrontational :_D as much as I appreciate the intention behind someone offering advice, it gets... super hard to talk to them.
Like... look, I get it, you came with experience and didn't want someone else fall down the same hole, but perhaps try to take the other's circumstances into your consideration before you force this kind of consultations upon someone when they literally are just trying to eat their lunch.
Don't assume things beyond areas we have touched upon, that is.
...Not that I'll bring this issue up to their face though I'm terrified haha 
goodness above it is freezing in this lab
gonna be sunning myself like a lizard again...