Dear self: trying too hard for too long to fix too many things that won't last as long as the time they took to break is a bug, not a feature. Throw things away.

There is a proper place for everything and sometimes that place is the trash.

Yes, even if homesteaders in the 1800s would be delighted to have it. Yes, even if your never-told-you-this-was-poverty childhood environment would have tried to make do with it until it rotted.

Yes, even if it feels like it would be wasteful and evil not to spend months repairing and ebaying and freecycling until every last thing has found a good home.

Forget a project manager, I would need a team of project managers for that.

So much of this stuff could be repaired to the point of continued utility, but will never be repaired to the point where anyone who can afford to be housed would own it.

Most of it isn't practical to have for anyone who couldn't already get one elsewhere.

And in better condition.

And this especially goes for the threadbare garments and holey, bleach-stained linens.

This isn't even my stuff. It is not my job to make it whole.

Nobody who might have a claim to this set of things wants them or would benefit from them or will wonder what happened to them. There's a separate category for sentimental-value stuff. This is not that.

It's okay to throw it out.

🫂

and also

one that helps me is to Touch the thing or be holding the thing, and say very gently AND NOT SARCASTICALLY, "Honey, that's trash," before throwing it away.

if it's something that actually Had Use before or that has a slight "aww" but no actual attachment it gets the "Thank you for your efforts!" (somehow feels like a sendoff)

I mean, that's not mine, I stole it from one of the million cleaning things I've read somewhere

/leans on

that's unironically touching (in both senses), especially specifying Not Sarcastic

the "uuuuuugh why am I like this, nobody has time for me to be like this" brainworms are strong

someone told me "if it's trash, respect it for the trash that it is [by throwing it out, which is okay and appropriate]" and that also helped, but yeah, the "tell it thank you for being itself up till now" (I think I first saw that from Marie Kondo) does feel right

I've also been trying a little "time to clean out the enclosure, the soft animal can be comfortable and safe"

trying to supplant the old, old mental screaming

egg!The Quail Egg!

also watched this incredible one the other dayChocolate Harp!

aack I still need to watch these<333

omg it's the chocolate guy

the dye dusting for the spots!!

and the way the little pastry forms the yolk!!!

the amount of work and time it takes to make these things

planning, templating, prototyping, ingredient prep, mixing/baking/etc, assembly, other decorations

the foot pedals omg

and I wondered what he was going to use for the strings that would hold themselves up at that scale

he's amazing, such an artist

he really is, and it's even more fun to watch because he enjoys it so much

Someone who doesn't have birds but has seen birds make other people happy just told me I should get a bird because it would be good for me and then rehome it when I move back up north. 1. I can't afford a pet. 2. ??????????????

it was kindly meant but this person apparently has no idea that it would be harder to leave an animal behind after getting attached to it

it was such an odd conversation

that was my face too, yeah

wtfwtfwtf, NO

yeah, srsly

I don't think they've ever had a pet

they're quite elderly so they probably never will

it wasn't an unhinged vibe, just a completely clueless one

(AND I WANT A BIRD SO MUCH. But the kinds of birds I want are not suited for city life. )

yeah, like....... I support you getting a bird at some point, but they do have to be birds that can live in Boston

yeah XD;;;;

and not a flock bird (poultry are all flock birds and should not be kept one at a time), so that narrows it too

We do have a big yard.......

I don't think we're zoned for chickens though

Yeah, alas, we're not. And every chicken I've owned could fly over our fences. Maybe giant Brahma hens with deep quiet voices, though I don't have experience with them.

we could build a coop & enclosure in the back of the yard for cute quails someday

maybe?

True!! They're honestly probably the type of poultry best suited for city life.

They have short lifespans, though, because smol.

yeah, that's the sad part

That's why the cobra chickens are so appealing to me, but we don't have a pond.

And other reasons too, but waterfowl should have a pond.

we don't have a pond

I sort of want a pond, but it would be a teeny one, not for geese

Right now birds are a pipe dream, but they're fun to dream about.<3

Ooooh. Would it be appropriate for turtles, though?

Because if pond, maybe turtle.

SOMEDAY

maybe

Ever watch those water-feature shows on youtube?

They can be pretty fun.

DIY Budget Ecosystem Pond - Solo Build in 5 Days by ...

(my favorite gecko tank designer has also done some ponds)

Oh, I love him

his new backyard pond is spectacular and ENORMOUS

This is the kind of thing where I wish we all lived in proximity and could visit each other and basically have a barn-raising for things like this

man, right?

I still dream of an actual (functional, which seems so very rare) commune, personally

you could be the chicken person XD

(and geese and duck person)

(with help, of course)

Yeah; it takes a lot to run any kind of cooperative situation, and the bigger the situation, the bigger the logistics. Especially with how society is designed to create problems so big that neighborly help isn't enough.

I would love to be the poultry person and have a little flock of poultry people to raise heritage breeds together.<3

To make that work in a co-op situation, the poultry division would have to maintain a production chain that covers all stages of the birds' life and all their desired uses (eggs, meat, reproduction, sales of chicks and/or pullets, social media subdivision for advertising and outreach).

yeeeep

I aspire to a little flock of laying hens someday

And expenses would start with feed, vet oversight, building and upkeep of facilities (coops/bird-tractors, incubation, pasturing, pond for waterfowl, predator deterrants), surplus to replace natural attrition, and human time put toward daily maintenance (feed/water/dustbath areas, egg patrol, changing bedding, watching out for individual issues).

I highly encourage a little flock of laying hens.<3 Especially friendly breeds like cochins.

Raise 'em by hand and spend time with 'em, and (allowing for individual personalities) they learn to see you as a buddy.

I am the most faceblind person, but Taylor Tomlinson does something with her face that looks like Carrie Fisher and I can't unsee it?

Lol remember when I ghosted my therapist? #shorts #f...

Idk if it's a makeup style or the expressions or both

Being in your twenties… #Shorts #Comedy #Funny #Stan...

but I need her to play young Leia now

Get someone Save Me Tour tix for a little holiday tr...
seriously, does anyone else see this? when her thumbnails come up on youtube I hame to double-check every time

I’m handling it #standupcomedy #comedy #funny #menta........huh!

BROSIS it's definitely something in the eye-to-nose triangle is SERVING LEIA

also the kind of deliberate way she ~uses~ a smile is similar to how Ms. Fisher did it

RIGHT??? maybe a little in the... idk cheekbone arrangement too, when she tilts her head a certain way

and yeah, it's a "yes, I'm smiling right now! I am very smiling! Super duper normal smiling! And also boring into the universe's soul to figure out if it really just had the audacity"