My husband’s mom has been sent to the hospital six times in the past five months.

This last time happened the first week of January.

She seemed pretty good. She was in there for some swelling in her foot and low blood pressure. She had a physical therapist that visited every week or so since the previous time she was in the hospital.

When she went in they found out she her liver was failing.

When they tried to aid that they found her blood pressure was negatively affected. Then they found out her kidney is failing.

When trying to aid the kidney to help with the liver they found issues with her pulmonary as well as her heart.

I know the content warning says “death”, but she is still alive.

She just won’t be for much longer.

We had the family meeting with her team of doctors yesterday and they let us know there was nothing they could do to fix her ailing body.

While she has been there she had needed to be intubated and medically induced into a coma.

She came out of it a week or two ago

Honestly the time has blurred

But when she came out she ended up getting hospital delirium.

She thinks the hospital staff is trying to poison her.

Said it was like Stephen King’s book Misery.

It’s been hard leaving her there because she is scared and begging to get tf out of there.

She’s calmed down with that this week, but also her death has become very certain.

She’s been switched to “Comfort Care” which is basically the hospital version of Hospice.

And now we’re looking into hospice places she can stay at because there is no way any of us can take care of her 24/7.

She’s bed ridden. We can’t lift her

She was very close to accepting death two days ago we were all scared she was gonna stop trying.

But yesterday was a good day. I think some visits from family she normally doesn’t get to see and word that she might get out of this hospital has perked her up.

But the doctor warned us that she may have good days with her bad day progression.

They don’t have a time estimate or a ball park.

That’s it. That’s the update.

I don’t have the brain space for RPing right now

All my free time is spent at the hospital or laying with my husband feeling entirely emotionally, physically, and mentally drained.

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I'm really sorry to hear both of you are going through this. It is always so difficult, even 'knowing' someone doesn't have long but still go through it- It was similar with my dad. We were told he had about three weeks and everyone said at least we knew and could make the most of the time, but it didn't necessarily make it easier to go through at the time

RP will be here when you do have time again! Take care of you and yours first always

💙💙 Thank you

I’m sorry you’re familiar with this pain. The pain of the inevitable being really palpable is.... shitty

YEAH it's definitely like... I totally understand the unexpected is its own kind of grief, but the helplessness of knowing/watching the decline and there being nothing you can do but try to make it as easy as you can for them is also so rough

Both suck ass

And now we have the privilege to look for a hospice place that doesn’t charge $600 A DAY

Thats really tough to go through, I just went through the same thing tbh with my partners mum most of last year with it getting really bad in the fall. Its so tough because it takes so much out of you even if you're not directly involved (ie your parent) because theres a lot of support as well as going through it with them.

But its okay to take a break I certainly have, I HAD to by the end of the day I had no focus on hobbies or even keeping up with my own stuff. It was rough, but its always something you can come back to when you can and as you deal with this cause it gets tougher before it gets better

But know that you are a strong amazing person even when you feel like you arent and your partner will be so thankful to have you through it all I'm sure I know mine was and still is because even though she passed before the holidays its still something we deal with every day.

💙💙💙 Thank you, Sly. Hanging in there.

We don’t really know how long she has, but by the looks of her I don’t think we have months. 😔