wife finally managed to convince brother-in-law & mother-in-law to move out of the appartment

for the first time since I moved in with my wife in 2011 we finally have an apartment to ourselves

I'm gonna cry I'm so happy

HOW LOL

also congrats on the powers of persuasion

Omg YAY

I don't know how she managed but she did. I'm so happy. no more constant miasma of negativity in the house

i have never felt so relieved

on a not-so-fun note, I got to deal with a nice full extent of my mother-in-law's homophobia today for the first time

she accidently walked in just as I was giving my wife a kiss and she immediately reacted by screaming at us

we always knew she was not happy with the whole gay thing but blew it off because I'm a "Nice person" who takes care of her

and we chalk it up to her super conservative and religious upbringing

but for a long time we are rarely ever publicly affectionate save for some cuddling and flirting, although she doesnt seem to mind when she walks into our bedroom and we're both nude

but I think this is the first time she walked in on us sharing a kiss and wasnt preemptively prepared for it

and she screamed at us

she then tried to backtrack and say it was because my wife hasn't been feeling great and she doesnt want either of us to get sick

and then changed the topic asking if I could help her take her blood pressure

but that... I'm finding it difficult to not be angry at her for reacting like that

after living in my apartment rent-free for the past year

once again, I am so hapy they are leaving

it is extremely valid to be angry about that

...........i'm trying to fathom...

i genuinely can't even imagine what one would yell at people for kissing

I once had a conversation with her because my wife talked about the prospect of eventually having a family... And she said it was fine if I had the kid, but she doesn't want her daughter to have the child. she tried to say it was because of her health initially... but then it became how it was against her religion...

and then it became a big thing of "what will the family think", to the child would be a bastard because she isn't married to a man

that was the first time I saw her react like that... this was the second

we have close family friends who are Muslim and have accepted her and me graciously, even telling her that its okay and to get witht he times

but she cant wrap her head around it, and still thinks everyone will look down on her for having a gay daughter

which i get it, she does come from a country where being gay is considered a crime. Its conditioned into her

but to show such disrespect as to yell at the people housing you for showing a simple act of affection for one another

I am baffled

especially to immediately turn to one of them and ask them to check a health thing for you

I....wow....

Just dealing with this my whole life. I’m going low contact for a while after.

........okay maybe this is a weird or stupid question but what did she yell

it's not important but it's driving me up the wall that i can't even form a mental image of somebody yelling at people for kissing

it's just such a bafflingly outlandish way to behave i just

it was just more of an agitated "hey!" more than anything. when we responded asking "what?" she told us to "not do that"

which... no? even if you're trying to fall back in the "for our health" excuse, we literally sleep next to each other every night???

I'll kiss my wife who I have been married to for over eight years now as much as I like thanks

I get struggling to get past some deeply ingrained prejudices etc but to just... act on them to that level, actively, out loud, and long enough to double down on your reaction???

she's always been like that. so integrated on what is and is not accepted in the eyes of God type. which of course is only bad if it's also in eyeshot of her

Doesn’t help that she believes that she has the ear of god, blah blah.

I really thought she was doing better but I am disappointed in her yet again.

I’m honestly done.

It feels like the last straw kinda situation

oh ew how disappointing.