Unfuck your Anxiety (see previous plurk lol and family and -- yes.) 
lol relatable. I keep getting ads for these super super awesome amazing Nursing cliff notes and I wannnnnnt it but I keep having to slap my hands like "where would I even put it???" but I WANT IT o_o
lol
roflmao
ahahahahaha moosechangerpat YOU
lol mugiwaraLufy because we just talked about this a couple weeks ago
haaaah yeah
I wasn’t aware this was a 19th-century invention—good to know it’s relatively recent. Perhaps future philosophers and physiologists will see it as a 19th-21st century fad. They’ll recognize that emotions exist for a reason: though sometimes misplaced, they remain useful and based on reason and logic.
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FR I wanted to be independent in the truest sense (very hermit) my whole life buuuut I must work to be interdependent yes
<= how to know why CC flips her shit at times
As one does. I would like an orange corn snake but also I am the dread mistress of dark and cold so axolotl's are fine but corn snakes would suffer like a CC in the desert probably
Hugely fucking important
<- trans* people have more stress, but when those things (such as gender affirming care) are taken care of; their stress becomes reduced to "normal human" levels etc. Significant for obvious reasons
"To what extent does racist prejudice contribute?" A lot and there's no real way of quantifying it because it's uniquely individual in reaction and experience. -> see also anger management (Unfuck your Anger) and how societal injustice can be a huge cause.
@silverwolfcc - Have you ever been too angry to read... 
yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaah I get this
ahahahah (roflmao) MJMom are you sure you want this book? It's like having an angry CC try to be your bulldog and walk you through psychology 
it's not for everyone and that's okay????
Creative ways to identify your triggers
<-- gut microbiome is a UNIVERSE into itself
I am once again going to advise those who can't handle caffeine to compensate for the other things in tea/etc. that help with their other basic microbiome shit. But I can't make anyone do anything even if it's a night and day difference. Suffer if you want. This is why I'm a sadist.
Yes I do have the Unfuck your eating, body, sleep, et. al thanks for asking
Thiiiiiiiiiiiis dummy (Not you Mom or Luffy-bro 
)
Lavender is also great as a mice repellant 
<- therapy types
If my memories aren't wonky, this is what Jessica Jones used in the netflix series (s1)
Lots of the meds stuff I'm skipping over for being moot but these are semi relevant charts: 
Also why they freak out about me being on propranolol in the hospital because 1) I'm already short of breath and 2) LOW blood pressure -- and it is often for lowering it (though in my case it is to help my heart STOP FREAKING OUT)
Biofeedback & Alpha-Stim
Chiropracter and Reiki
More on reiki and massage
massage and weighted blankets
weighted blankets, friends, family support networks
questions to ask for getting a professional therapist etc.
- why specialty matters
I am a little nervous because my life is so crazy but
Definitely important
More for moosechangerpat than mom
<- Important if you take meds/new ones /etc.
THIS is something I would like EVERYONE to learn and develop techniques for
Learned Optimism Test & Example | Free PDF Downloadshadaboodiboop
ABCDE -- Lmfao C made me laugh, Garp!Dad would agree about the cookie 
Get practicing
Again; I will seriously make you ALL do this homework. Chop Chop.
My Mind tells I am too much of -- AWESOMEMy mind tells me I am not enough of -- Chill. I haz 0
My mind tells me I do too much of -- trying to save the world? AND/OR spending energy inefficiently. \:|/ probably
My mind tells me I do not do enough -- Videogames. Weirdly.
My mind tells me I lack -- chill (see above)
OBVIOUSLY NONE OF YOU WILL (and/or even SHOULD arguably...) MATCH MINE but do you
Worth noting; I had to do all this EARLY EARLY EARLY IN when I first got depressed from getting sick and not being able to work etc.
Go fight win
MINDSET TRAINING /flex
Who sharpened her mind when she couldn't exercise and gain all the weightlifting training ever? This crazy chick
How's that for winning at life / No Game No Life Strategy TM 
yesssss
BLESSINGS \o/
Take a deep breath and --
Yup that tasted purple
guided relaxation
I do rosaries because I like the feeling of being delulu and "useful" to saving the world JUST IN FUCKING CASE
ymmv
^ Meditation
ftr if you can't remember/haven't guessed; it took me DECADES to get to the point I could do this AT ALL. Related to yoga; it doesn't stimulate me, relaxation is weird when you think the world is ending and you have the capacity (maybe; if you can figure it all out) to save it and it's like "Wow you don't see too many superhero
teams sitting around doing yoga as the planet is on fire DO YOU?!" But they wouldn't be super effective if they didn't do anything like that either so
Rest. Meditate. Be your best you
/stares into space
Would this be helpful right now?
-- extended reading list of anxiety books if you feel inclined
We have now concluded Unfuck your Anxiety. While I have your attention (my family's) I will add in a few others that Mom keeps whining at me about needing to work on :V yay.
------ Unfuck Your Boundaries ~~~~~~~~
We all know someone who struggles with appropriate boundaries. Maybe we ARE that person. Maybe it's autism, maybe it's trauma, maybe it's unawareness how to function in a malleable society while retaining our own individual identities Let's begin.
We all know someone who struggles with appropriate boundaries. Maybe we ARE that person. Maybe it's autism, maybe it's trauma, maybe it's unawareness how to function in a malleable society while retaining our own individual identities
Let's begin.
/adds to the education part of the econ book
Boundaries are good. Boundaries are our friend (unironically) boundaries are not abusive stop trying to reverse DARVO shit, that ain't how it works, and also if even Trump & co had better boundaries and respect for them; they would not just be better people but the world also would be better
Yes, see? Boundaries are about changing the world.
Communication & Trauma will be included. Brace yourselves.
Goo can't save the world. 
Boundaries are (loosely paraphrasing) territory markers. Use them.
They are malleable and thus you must be careful not to kick them in the face they are too gentle for that and it would do tar baby shit to you anyway. So don't.
Respect is nurturing them. Respect the boundaries. NURTURE them.
Good jobs with working on these and continuing to, and getting better applause applause keep going to change the world. 
more types
ya'll on notice
Time + Summary about boundaries
And to prove I am doing this homework with you
1) My physical boundaries are the most "I must know you and it changes per the moment/situation" When I am angriest I am a puffed up cat / porcupine NO TOUCH. (Except Kyle who, if anything, I am like "hey hey. HANDS ON AT ALL TIMES :V" but also he is exception and able to de-rage me very quickly // well better than everyone else combined)
Time: I would give you all I could, but if it starts to fuck my health, I'll give you multiple warnings and my best. Ditto if it infringes on what others want from me annnnd I do need SOME to myself or I will lose my fucking mind. I do my best to compensate (introversion) with headphones etc. but resppppeeeeect itttttttt
Property: :| /sigh/ While I understand and accept that keeping property physically fucking in tact but also not fucking wrecked by everything that is living with a Goblin/children/MICE ISSUE / Health issues / CFIDS/cleaning etc. etc. I treasure books. Never sleep in my bed if you can do anything to avoid it (Kyle again, exceptions) It makes me sad when
I can't find the things I treasure most (books, headphones, notebooks, pens, my to-go bag, TEAS, cell phone, laptop etc.) but accidents happen and I understand no one is perfect and it does make me EQUALLY HAPPY When these things are understood and accepted 
Emotional: I love animals more than books. That's a big thing. A BIG THING. Sad, distressed, dying/devastated animals especially because of mankind (tortured) or those without their natural habitats will fuck me up. This is hard line boundary. Disrespect it at your peril because when I'm fucked up, you're all in danger :V
Intellectual: I don't like being condescended to, but I'm fucking used to it thanks to Matilda childhood. This is also why I'm extra inclined to be a scary scary bitch. No one in their right mind would treat Polgara as a non-intellectual. 
Spiritual: I have to meditate (rosary) AT LEAST once a day or lose my fucking grip. You don't have to listen to it, you never have to do it with me, but if you don't let me you are in danger of being bitten. \:|/ I do not do church easily because I distrust the cultism and reinforcement of community public pressure; it goes against my literal religion.
2) Boundary Violations I experience the most -- Since this would put you all on notice; I think you KNOW. So let's just say MENTAL SPACE. I have very very limited energy, I have a strong desire to run away and be alone; and while I accept that's unfeasible and not HEALTHY / GOOD FOR ME; I do still need SOME. More than 1 hour a day, I can soak some up when I
get extra (ie: But I was only alone for 15 minutes Friday, and an hour ISH Saturday when Kyle was off doing things! / But now I've had 5 hours and it feels. GOOD.) -- BUT ALSO If it is interrupted? Then it doesn't count. If I have to take my headphones even halfway off? No good. It helps if I can distance PHYSICALLY but phone calls are still
No good. It helps if I can distance PHYSICALLY but phone calls are still
NOT within that "alone time" absoprtion 
And if I have to do phone ++ PEOPLE IN PERSON? Nope. End of the world. Fucks me up. No bueno.
3) I suck at emotions. You do not come to CC for emotions. You come to CC for blunt terrifying truths / honesty and sometimes that's like slamming a ball in your face. I'm sorry. It's not out of lack of love. It's just an empathy compensation of sheer brutality in which your fear separates me so distinctly I can definitely say "yeah that's not me." but
it's not HEALTHY / GOOD / NICE either. Sorry.
Rigid boundaries do come with downsides and should be used VERY sparingly
- permeable boundaries
Flexible boundaries -- FTW means "For the Win" Mom
see that middle fucking part?
LET ME JUST
ZOOM IN FOR EMPHASIS
<------------------------
I am the patron saint of autism I swear to fuck.
Now to be fair; MOST people have trouble SETTING boundaries. Some of us /ahem/ have an opposite problem. So it's vital to understand what they are and in order to internalize (take the external force of OTHERS / society and make it so ingrained in ourselves that it's indistinguishable) how to utilize and understand boundaries -- we must also learn more about
setting our own and then we can understand how/why/what we can do better about say respecting others.
liminality is the progressive state of starting off semi-rigid but as you get a better grip on other things, you can loosen those boundaries more etc.
Why is CC so aggro? Because I will never ever let someone else define my world for me. If I did; I couldn't save the world, could I?
Which messages have I internalized about boundaries?
(again; internalized means taking something generally external aka: societal / cultural concepts but then taking them deeply into ourselves so that we understand them without consciously analyzing them -- usually this is "bad" but can be used for GOOD which we will now engage in collectively )
(again; internalized means taking something generally external aka: societal / cultural concepts but then taking them deeply into ourselves so that we understand them without consciously analyzing them -- usually this is "bad" but can be used for GOOD which we will now engage in collectively
)
-- Fortunately (?!?!) I was raised by Garp-Dad and I was so gentle and the opposite of aggro (IRONICALLY) that Garp-Dad acted as the father in a Boy Named Sue and kept teaching me to throw punches, verbally smack down and gobsmack adults and "Your is the will that will save the world so you are going to be pushed around a lot, and life is going to suck a
lot, and all you can do is enact and manifest your will into sheer fucking reality so get good at punching through walls." Of course I kept saying "Nuh-uh, I'm cancelling the apocalypse! NO APOCALYPSE" But that's not the point. The point is, he was nothing if not insanely clear that I needed boundaries to SAVE MY LIFE and also frequently encouraged me to
push back even harder than I was, because I definitely was a lot more willing to let things ~~~slide~~~ just because if someone else wants X they must have a good reason, right? Despite the great cost to myself subsequently +++ He knew my Mom could be a bit of a pushover and so he tried to make sure I had two times as much in the opposite
+++ He knew my Mom could be a bit of a pushover and so he tried to make sure I had two times as much in the opposite
direction. Yay.
Are my boundaries Rigid, Flexible, Or Permeable GENERALLY speaking?
Flexible. With exceptions in both directions. 1) I need sleep. I don't know how much, and I can go 36 hours without DYING but I definitely don't think clearly and if you are going to push all my OTHER boundaries inwards then I need more sleep (+ meditation ++ alone time) to be sober
Flexible. With exceptions in both directions. 1) I need sleep. I don't know how much, and I can go 36 hours without DYING but I definitely don't think clearly and if you are going to push all my OTHER boundaries inwards then I need more sleep (+ meditation ++ alone time) to be sober
THIS FEELS rigid, because I will snap heads off with less and/or get way way worse, but also it's my biggest "wtf is wrong with you" and I know it's REALLY frustrating for everyone else because I'm like Sleeping Beauty + Princess and the Pea + Snow White in a FUCKING COMA so A] Who knows if I am asleep B] Who knows if I can get BACK to sleep C] Do not wake
me if you can avoid it. D] Oh. You fucking did it anyway. At least make it for a good reason? No??? It was literally just to see if I was asleep? GDIAF. "But if that boundary is so rigid why is it violated?" Because I'm surrounded by psychos /CC that's not nice --- THAT IS WHY YOU GIVE ME SLEEP YO
speaking of which
I will start enacting consequences at some point for boundary violations. I mean technically this running away / rescue by Kyle IS a big one, but it was the most extreme I could do for the most extreme of boundary violations etc.
Other rigid boundaries I have -- Intellectual. Not my own pride/self image/being insulted; but when I know something via EXTENSIVE research, testing, reading, and more than I know you do/would have POSSIBLY had access/capacity/TIME FOR especially when it's a health & safety matter (ie: allergens; or long covid, or certain science) Nothing sends me up a
wall faster than being dismissed as ~ that's just your opinion man! ~ no it fucking isn't. And I will reach the point of "Then die."
Ghostbusters (1984) | Are You a God?
Ghostbusters (1984) | Are You a God?
Boundaries that could be more rigid - Time? Emotional? My time is the most precious thing I have because It is all I have. I do not have health or capacity to enact anything jobs, most household chores, I can't guarantee when/if ever I'll even be a good listener, etc. And yet because of that even though I value it, I value everyone else so much so
It is all I have. I do not have health or capacity to enact anything jobs, most household chores, I can't guarantee when/if ever I'll even be a good listener, etc. And yet because of that even though I value it, I value everyone else so much so
I try to give them what I can. And while I've gotten BETTER about straight up saying "I. Want. To. Read. And Chill. :||||" I haven't been as good at enforcing it. Self-advocacy is hard especially with those who help advocate for you to the world (which I could neeeeeeeeeeevaaaaaaaar and I'm very grateful, thank you)
Emotional -- to respect others' more, I should respect my own more. So definitely less "This is a YOU problem go away" and more of a "this is an US problem, let's work on making it better together."
Re: Permeable // Time had been, and now I am going to make it a lot firmer. I wish to do what I wish to do, and not because someone else wishes to and especially NOT ON THEIR SCHEDULE.
One to keep permeable; people asking for my help and/or reminding me to accept/ask for help too. This is also for my fucking safety. But also theirs.
But unless it's life or death; less with the WAKING CC UP FOR NO GOOD REASON D:<<<<< And especially NO keeping CC up for days on end and then expecting her intellect to still be solid what the fuck
To move in these directions; I am going to try harder to remember/respect always others' boundaries and then be VERY VERY CLEAR about my own.
---> One not directly listed, but "RELATIONSHIP" boundaries. Do not go behind my back to try to convince my support network of anything to do with me. Period. This is insanely egregious and will get you A NO CONTACT
---> One not directly listed, but "RELATIONSHIP" boundaries. Do not go behind my back to try to convince my support network of anything to do with me. Period. This is insanely egregious and will get you A NO CONTACT
Until such a time as you improve, make amends, and fix your insanity. AKA: Do not ever do. (Mom never has, she has a phobia about it too because of FAMILY DRAMA)
Boundary Violations (and why CONSENT is super important) <-
External and Internal boundary violations <-
The list begins; also these are super helpful for dealing with animals too, even though you can't communicate with words, you only pet animals that CONSENT through non-verbal communication which is why you LEAVE BAMBI FUCKING ALONE.
- SIDE TANGENT NOTE BUT I FEEL LIKE IT
There is a whole feminist animal rights activist line of theory that men's trouble with respecting animal boundaries' and consent extends to women and is why it "goes both ways" which I'm unsure how much I agree with, but it's very much into the "only happy cows/happy chickens and when you just factory farm you are decoupling the farming and just doing it
like porn industry" etc.
Hopefully some of you are getting an "oooooohhhhhh" with a little lightbulb moment here
I did not even read beyond what I post; when I posted, and answered the workbook questions as I went, it's just written 100% in "CC voice / tone" and almost as if I wrote this to my younger self so
Triangulating is the biggest red flag with me, literally the main reason I wouldn't use facebook for so long, and doing that to me will get me to go no-contact (Ie: I will not speak to you for a certain length of time!!!!!!) So. do not.
- both internal/external POSSIBLE boundary violations (not always, for everyone, ymmv)
<- re: relationship one for Kyle, pursuing verbally is fine. Acting as if nothing changed within my physical space before resolving; that's the line for me (again, everyone is different, and this might be an unnecessary statement)
You do not have to fill these out publicly, I'm not your therapist (and don't want to be.) or babysitter.
1) HONESTLY NO (these are all ones I thought of, though "did you read that book they're from" = PROBABLY IDK) but I definitely use my words as a cruel carving weapon when I get spicy. I need to do better.
And re: "Indulging our desires at the expense or harm of another" IDK It probably is innaccurate to say "is wanting space/alone time at someone else's expense?????" So. :| Figure your shit out.
/stares into the distance. re: 3) the kinds I experienced a lot of; I do not wish to discuss at this time. (see? This is a boundary. I set them well with Dad, and he in turn, helps me use them to navigate the world and protect myself etc. etc. etc.)
4) in the present: hence yeeting out for safety and sanity.
A] Time.
B] Internal
C] Sleep
D] Treating me like a side character / pet o_<
E] Rewriting the TEXTS I LITERALLY SEND and then making up a fictional version instead and re-acting like I said that instead
hence yeeting out for safety and sanity.A] Time.
B] Internal
C] Sleep
D] Treating me like a side character / pet o_<
E] Rewriting the TEXTS I LITERALLY SEND and then making up a fictional version instead and re-acting like I said that instead
5) brutal language, be nicer CC.
6) I would like to clean up. This is difficult because I am constantly unsure how much -I'm allowed- (physically) at this point because bending over bad. dying very bad. I hate messes though ESPECIALLY my own (it hits my psyche/ego hard!!!) and as a babby I used to go clean whenever Mom scolded me :|||| FR FR it was my
6) I would like to clean up. This is difficult because I am constantly unsure how much -I'm allowed- (physically) at this point because bending over bad. dying very bad. I hate messes though ESPECIALLY my own (it hits my psyche/ego hard!!!) and as a babby I used to go clean whenever Mom scolded me :|||| FR FR it was my
destress technique. Though created a questionable dichotomy where being strict on CC led to a cleaner house and also gave her CFIDS. Go. Fucking. Figure.
7) Sleep sleep sleepity sleep. I get it. Accidents happen. If you call me because you didn't know, or you tiptoe in the room because sometimes I sleep through it, or it's a REAL emergency; I GET IT. But if you just make a shit ton of noise, purposely wake CC up, and all it is is "nothing" I'm going to resent it a lot. And you can't stop me. 
Garp!Dad would do this too :| And no, it's still fucking insane, and yes, abusive. Even if UNKNOWINGLY. He's a lot better now afaict
- destroying property without even acknowledging
- lending property to a 3rd party without even consulting the primary (wtf)
- Making someone save money and then just treating it like "group funds" and/or ditto re: office/school/personal/roommate supplies. (ie: Middle school made teachers buy their own tissue boxes yet had a habit of treating any brought
- lending property to a 3rd party without even consulting the primary (wtf)
- Making someone save money and then just treating it like "group funds" and/or ditto re: office/school/personal/roommate supplies. (ie: Middle school made teachers buy their own tissue boxes yet had a habit of treating any brought
in as donations from students or teachers as "Everyone gets to use this" Tm)
- "Invading" someone's mind space with purposely reminding them of things like "you're breathing and blinking" or getting songs stuck in their head that they despise
- assuming someone's help without asking/them volunteering
- assuming someone's help without asking/them volunteering
OKAY! Great job making it this far. This is some seriously heavy shit. Take. a deep breath, we are going to take what is known as a GROUNDING break 
I remember that! It hurt! HURT SUCKS!
Remember; your boundary violations CAN be something really fucking different in your brain. BUT; once you know that you can compensate for it and do better!
# Patron saint of Autism
TBF
I strongly encourage you two to fill this out (where is up to you, so long as you do)
I say that, but I'm chickening out of doing my own. It's been an hour and you're both aware I sucked at listening (see also: lung dying) but I am getting better, and I have certain other compensations that help etc.
How the boundaries get fucked up (I blame Adam as in Adam and Eve)
eyes on the prize
TBF this shit happened even on Turtle Island / The Americas and Asia, so it's kind of just a DEARTH OF LILITH but \:|/ yolo
let's all work together to fix a world fucked by men teeheehee
But don't worry, we have men to help us pave the way too
rape culture
Politics is boundaries RESPECCCCT
Welcome to the team
1) GARP!DAD is very strong about that even if he also violated my sleep boundary a lot
However abuse trauma, inability to articulate the trauma, weird hierarchy bullshit, shy/autism + disability, bullying, school, sexism (x 1000000) MAN IT IS A LOT AMIRITE yes. Oh and racism 
so much to fix
so much to fix
-> 2) Ch-ch-changgeeeesss I can express them better and expect them to be better respected (minus the I'M A BABY so that helps) but also I've been kind of disabled and therefore homebound and that brings NEW CHALLENGES to specific boundaries and me trying to understand what I am even allowed to have for a comfort zone / not
3) >> << Internment camps >> But that's probably, hopefully, fucking unlikely for me specifically /stares upwards into space/ maybe. And I HOPE to help people change the world /yeaaaaarning reach/
4) Become so hardcore awesome nothing can stop me now including neonazis and dumbasses of the highest coked-up order.
5) B) Save. The. World. BABY.
And specifically me: not just survive; THRIVE. Please god. I yearn.
including because it amuses me
Guess who is the queen of dark and cold and fond of SUCH FUCKING RIGID BOUNDARIES that it's hard to get to know her and she copes well (sometimes, if life is not going to Hell on a blazing trainwreck that will take the universe with it) so people don't always KNOW it but those who see her daily definitely must bear
the brunt of this??? I'll give you a hint: it starts with C and ends C and there's no middle :|
THere is also the other end of the spectrum which is "what are boundaries???????? LALALAL WE ARE ALL ONE AND MELDED TOGETHER LIKE IN THE END OF EVANGELION"
I hated that but sometimes I get its significance to OTHERS and I go "Oh. Also EW."
# Dark Mistress of cold and DARKNESS
Secure Attachment = Fucking Weirdos. CC is what now? Yes. yes she is
Fuck all these fuckers RUN AWAY 
as adults we're still the children we were then etc.
We're Still the Children... By Jim Steinman (Batman ...
Things to think about
obviously trauma made mine ~Rigid~ and then more trauma had to work around "You're not physically allowed to withdraw all you'd like" and bad consequences for others dragged me back and the moral of the story is you can all go to Canada or Greenland or Mars, but I can't, I must see this through. But it's okay, I'm badass
Also worth noting that this (RANDOMLY) is what interested me in Osamu Dazai -- “The weak fear happiness itself. They can harm themselves on cotton wool. Sometimes they are wounded even by happiness”
SUUUUUUUUUPER HIGHLIGHT THIS PAGE BTW. Since we have all been fucked up by a certain unnamed psycho 
this is why you need strong boundaries; and why mine are intense
Relatedly this all applies to Trump too
Babe come to bed. I CAN'T! Someone is wrong on the INTERNET etc.
Coercive control uses society and triangulation as a matter of course
and it's usually a conscious decision though it can certainly become habitual
cw: literal abuse warning signs etc.
LGBT specific
or rather worse for them
Is Coercive Control "Fixable"
Answer: In YOURSELF If YOU WANT to fix it You cannot fix someone else who doesn't want to 
Hence Mom's reaction to being asked something is "No!" and then she thinks about it 
Grounding Exercise 2
I might be part cat
Boundary exercise list; and now your emotional body's gut check response
BREAK TIME AGAIN which is great because otherwise I would definitely yeet over to something fucking else
This is also good for anti-anxiety AROUND boundaries even and establishing into yourself; physical grounding and boundaries in the physical sense to take the external internal
rofl
Boundary communication!!!
this just keeps making me imagine modern-day-version Hiroe giving Nobunaga a lecture
and Nobunaga like baan.. da.. riizu... 
nope i don't get it
nope i don't get it
lmfao
He does always respect MC's lines? I THINKKKKK (memooorrrrriiiiieeeeesss) but yeah he'd be like "But if the world is mine "
"
I think he'd get it though because he has plenty of shit he doesn't like (ie: tickling; neck, assassinations, forced to pray etc.)
AGAIN... memories depending -_-'
If you're ever confused (since I AM lol) DM me your phone # number and I'll text you on signal if you have it
I didn't know you even had military secrets to leak
...also I'm not clear how that would be less confusing than plurk
Totally
Because [redacted] reasons I am "only allowed" to say on certain channels and Luffy-bro knows cybersecurity but I do not have the patience to learn it right now in the midst of everything
But yes; safe to assume some approximation of what I said before about trading my memories for a guardian force and how much of that is metaphor or literal is the whole joke
...honestly that's probably more confusing but only because FF8 doesn't explain shit
see?
just sort of "oh hey GFs cause memory loss that nobody noticed until it became convenient for the plot right now"
"let's never discuss this again"
That's... that's my cover story AYUP
"Which memories? Why?" "Uh the ones that might be useful for Satan to save the world" "............. That's.... highly unspecific...."
*ducks
I mean I could just
re-read everything which I'm trying for but
nah I get you I just miss the excellent CR 
I'll work on it but Text me and I can explain a bit better and maybe speed that up
-- Rule Number 1; Don't assume someone is intentionally a jerkface until they establish it, BECAUSE Number 2; they probably have a LOT of shit that impedes them from being their best selves FOR EXAMPLES
Rule Number 3; You can only control YOURSELF. SO DO.
<- speaking from experience it is, in face, waaaaaaaaaaaay easier to accept that others are dumb and boundaries have to be flexible than try to maintain them as rigid because you'll fuck yourself up like that but again; you can always start by respecting OTHERS' boundaries (and vice versa, if you find you overstep a lot; start
by establishing some new ones and learn how to claim your own comfort zone so that you can better help people in theirs!!!)
Remember! You want to maintain RELATIONSHIPS > boundaries
Huh. I was unaware of this. I just don't use slurs because of the historical context and meaning 
I'm sorry. I'm a CC >>; MugiwaraLufy we need to adjust away from purely aggressive to more firm but clear
yeah S-W gets overgeneralized and overextended A LOT in pop culture, but it's phrased pretty fairly here (although I'd probably say "may" instead of "will")
Obviously Passive is not smart alternative. Don't do this either.
<- always (caveats included) aim for this
-- my style is aggressive. Aiming for assertive. I have to unfuck my conditioning that anything less than "fuck off and leave me alone" can be respected and I don't have to bite someone to make them understand what I want.
Ideally I would like to work on fixing my family boundaries the most so that they see I can respect their wishes and give me that in turn. that'd be cool.
that'd be cool.
template for don't joke about [x]
the 4 levels of communication
Intent; literal words said, what was heard, what was inferred by the other person
As mugiwaralufy put its
Godspell - The New Broadway Cast: Tower Of Babble
I love that this entire thing is written like ME to my own younger self /chef kiss perfection
I encourage Mom to try one her own way but maybe it's moot, maybe EVERYONE just needs a bitch-ass big sis CC even her own literal Mom \:|/ yolo
What they heaaaaaar
Never forget: YOU are responsible for YOU
Now as I said; Brian and I lean too hard on the aggressive because # angel things we like being scary scary intense af insane and we literally want Gabriel to do all the hard SPEAKING SENDING MESSAGES SHIT BUUUUUUUUUUT -->
We can still ease back some; we grew up with a certain dumdum fucking up our boundaries and our expectation for them to be respected; but Jesus had Satan, and he still figured his shit out Be better us
Be better us 
how to not fuck up so much 
hahahah the exact example in this one IS VERY VERY NSFW MOM BUT -- it helped me a lot because it exemplifies why we need to NOT go overboard which I have a tendency to do especially when we want to be UTTERLY CLEAR that is a big no no
Who is a safe person to experiment boundary communication with -? For me, it's Kyle. I will saaaaay you can with me BUT I ASK IN ADVANCE You warn me that's what you're doing so I am less dumb and more gentle but firm AS NEEDED 
Brief - Short and to the point (my weakness) Informative: don't focus on what they got wrong, just give the facts supporting yourself and ignore stupid bullshit like insults from them
As I always say; who cares if they say you're a doodoo head; why do you want them to even have a different opinion of you, and if you do; then just focus on being good enough they either fix their bullshit or everyone else knows they're a dumbshit (ie: Trump) AND YES THIS IS ME BEING AGGRO BUUUUT
I'm not saying it to anyone's face, I'm telling you just be awesome and let it wash away~
Friendly & Firm = BIFF
Avoid the 3 As
Advice (my big vice) :V
admonishment and apology
These are literal workplace examples so MugiwaraLufy hopefully you get why I wanted to finish this out before moving on
obviously no matter how amazing you are at BIFF some motherfuckers still gonna be Tucker's law in this joint called Earth (and beyond)
AGAIN I didn't read a page ahead; it's just LITERALLY LIKE it's me advising my younger self, the swears are strategic for EMPHASIS and MEANING and shock and awe so that I can keep barreling forward after getting rid of dumdums who will get stuck on those first
The pane glass might help empaths IDK
Grey Rock method I've straight up advised people dealing with Nobunaga and can't handle him :||||
In general it's how I deal with dumdums
Which obviously doesn't always work because I can't camo myself for shit but it's great for bosses that suck
it's great for bosses that suck
boundary shenpa deserves a song
Remember "No" is a full answer
Have a drawing Mom. Make it your background if you want 
1) I.... don't know. YES Suprirsingly and that is WEIRD TO ME BUT GOOOOOOD and I should be better at expressing how grateful I am and LOVE YOU ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL yes
2) Yes, thank the Lord
3) THAT'S THE GOAL - (to maintain them long term)
THAT'S THE GOAL - (to maintain them long term)
Friends are like stars, you can't always see them, but you still know they're there
4) when my own boundaries are trodden - so definitely certain people and AND BIGLY: when someone shows me they can be not as wise as both they and I thought they were up to that point yes
I MEAN DECADES AGO: I just flat out didn't know shit and I thought things were normal that are not, and that's true a month ago but I wasn't like DOING things to other I was more accepting of receiving because something something "I like to think I am a badass even when I need to be more assertive in order to protect others" etc.
How to handle wanting to help someone in their BAD DECISIONS TM even though it might mean BABYING THEM LIKE A BABY. We all need a little babying sometimes after all
No is good. No is your friend, even if it hurts.
No protects you and protects others we love No.
This is EXTRA HARD FOR ADHD!!!!! <- Interrupting and wanting to TALK and NOT LISTEN ESPECIALLY when you think "omfgosh I've heard this story like 30 times I will just BEAT YOU TO THE PUNCHLINE SO WE CAN MOVE ON"
STFU Isn't just Shut the Fuck Up it is also
Share TimeThree Seconds
Finding Empathy
Understanding is Not Necessary
cw: extreme end of the spectrum to boundary violations are rape and abuse and that can fuck up our thermometer of where is it okay to cross lines
accountability is accepting responsibility and working to repair the damage done
APOLOGIZE DO NOT JUSTIFY
ACCOUNTABILITY 
-> repairing trust takes work, and an apology ALONE is not going to do it.
Think of it like this: (I do) Trump can't take responsibility for SHIT. ANYTHING EVER. While it is very very unhelpful to try to take responsibility for something you didn't do (ie: Trump also tries to take credit for Biden's succcesses, but then blame him for Trump's failures =\ Freak, but even on the bad things. I didn't kill people so it would be bad for
everyone to say I did and not make them feel better either) - Trump is the direct opposite direction we want to go. So we can look at him and go "Ah. Let's do the opposite." And that is the key to success I am not kidding. I MEAN IT FOLKS /Biden voice
I am not kidding. I MEAN IT FOLKS /Biden voice
If you hurt someone what can you do FOR THEM (not yourself!!!)
I have spent a lot of time trying to IMAGINE a community service program Trump & co could go through to help BEGIN repairing their dumbass damage and I'll keep working on it
-- 1) Listening, I've gotten pretty good at with Dad, it's not just BITING my tongue, it's understanding he doesn't get to tell many people his thoughts and as long as he isn't demanding that I respond in CERTAIN WAYS (which he does, but I can assert my "please don't do that, my brain doesn't work that way") it's just learning
EVEN THOUGH It is listening comp which is hard for me, so it's just trying to learn how to better my listening comp ~_~
2) because I love my Daddy
And I know he learns better by following example so if I want him to understand me, I have to show him what I want from him too
3) No fights with Dad
And I know he learns better by following example
so if I want him to understand me, I have to show him what I want from him too3) No fights with Dad
4) Everyone will be happier because when either of us are not in our best moods, NO ONE IS Sorry
5) Time, contemplation, baby baby baby steps. Inviting him to do things. Trying Axis & Allies when I have time/health/opportunity etc.
story time
Save the world with me, I can't do it alone but I have the best help
Seriously, I mean it Folks. No lie. /Biden again
Practically me now