I still do not entirely believe that romantic attraction is actually a thing - it turns out to be way harder for people to describe to me than sexual attraction

I've been told about that, and I know about loving friends very much, but there's this other thing? apparently?

I'm lesbian in the way that means "doing womanhood wrong on purpose"

I'm also lesbian in the way that means, I don't feel attracted to people but also sometimes WOW, WOMEN

wow, women!!!!

fun me fact is that I thought I was straight until well into college, in defiance of ALL the evidence

my family thought I knew! looking back I can see why they thought so!

straight girls don't write f/f versions of the snow queen and give them to other girls as a present!

I realize the assumption that there would be some kind of pants feeling had an effect, or thoughts about kissing, but come the fuck on

I actively fretted about being a Straight Woman Appropriating Gay Men's Experiences By Doing Fanfiction, I had gay friends, I had ace friends, why did it take so long for 2 and -2 to make 0????

F/F snow Queen sounds kickass

high fiving on the romance ething

as someone who's aromantic and ended up dating anyway, i still think a significant part of the difference is semantics and the agreement that you want This Person to be in your life forever, as your most importnat person, and even then you can decide you wnat to call that something other than romance or dating lol

and that's when you actually approach it with nuance. society likes to sell you "dating = you want to have sex with them" even tho romantic and sexual attraction are OBVIOUSLY different axes

oh yeah society is just like. these are all the same thing, what do you mean.

but people I've talked to who've thought about it say there is a difference between romantic interest and a best friend, sex aside, but ime couldn't specify