i obviously do not expect to get a response from everyone for every single plurk! i'm just wondering like... do i come off unfriendly/off-putting?

or boring. i'm fine acknowledging i'm boring LMAO

if you don't have any particular reason. that is fine too. we can sit and be Bad At Socializing together

hmmm first of all not everyone knows this so forgive me if u do but if you don't put a comment in the plurk then it won't show up in unread! so if you ever plurk and just leave it at the OP, that could be an issue

but I don't think you come off badly

i actually don't know this wtf? plurk?????????

I think it's just sometimes we have so much to engage with on social media that if something's not SUPER eye-catching or from someone we're really close with, we tend to pass it by

YEAH

IT STRAIGHT UP DOESN'T SHOW IN UNREADS WITHOUT AT LEAST 1 COMMENT

Yeah

It's why I always comment to my own plurks at least once

same haha

even just an emote works

i think i usually do but now i'm like wait. maybe. not

could defs be something that contributed!

IT COULD BE so ty for telling me

ofc happy to help!!

Obviously I can only pseak for myself, but you don't come off as either boring or off-putting. You're just not posting things that I have a reply to! I really only just plurk for game stuff & I mostly ignore personal life posts just so I don't spend too much time on here, and your TLV posts usually aren't things that have anything to do with me/Vash.

and yeah i also figured that MSDJK:GNSJDKG re: super eye-catching and whatnot

I won't see plurks sometimes til daaaaays later and only bc I'll go manually check their timeline but it's like. super late by that point and I'll get awkward

all legit

SMLDKFMS

you can always post late to my plurks bb

Sometimes I don't respond to plurks tho bc ADHD

I'll think about responding....... then ooo shiny

notJoe: i totally get that! maybe i should be uh...

more brain-to-mouth filter

maybe just have an irl plurk catch-all or just pester A or smth

yeah I see a lot of people with IRL catchalls and it seems to work great for them

these are good notes............... thank u friends

yw lovely

i am learning to Socialize

you're freshly returning like me so still building a friends list too

me having been CRIPPLINGLY ANXIOUS during my teen years, now i gotta fuckin double down on learning

true

also try to ask questions and stuff in ur plurks! ask for people's favorite things or opinions or help

people sure do love answering questions

good way to engage and get closer

post polls that's always fun LOL

you come across as super friendly honestly! i don't reply around to plurks much tho, it's not just yours

wah!!! ty!!!

that said I'm sorry it has contributed to you feeling like this, I know it can be a huge bummer

missnaya: ngl i keep forgetting my lovely gifted me a plurk coin so i. completely forget i have the ability to make polls

adhd at its finest

eliotsatelier: AHH you're sweet ty!! it has bummed me a LITTLE but like. i've at least grown from where i used to be where i was like

you don't need a coin for polls actually! :3

a constant conspiracy-believing paranoid maniac who thought everyone hated me

and in that case ig i just forget bc i'm not used to it being a feature lol!

i should do polls tho............. polls are fun

yes, no one can resist a clicky

socializing is still so weird for me. it's like this amorphous area that i never quite fully understand and idk if this is an adhd thing, something else or what

or just the sad, sad consequence of basically being a turtle through my academic years and up into my early work years

I think it also depends like....... some people use plurk as a diary kinda thing to chat with people and all, and others will just use it to plot out RP things

very true

I used to use it a lot more as a socmed thing but in the recent years after some nasty issues with now-ex-friends I've retreated into just using it for rp most of the time

ahhh jeez, i feel it

Another little thing that might be causing lower activity - is that games are BIG if you have everyone added you can have something like 50+ new plurks to read in a day. and it might be easier to look at them superficially and MAAR than engage with each one

(I know it happens to me lol)

oh fs. i don't have too many people on my own timeline but TLV is a decently sized game!

i went nuts and added every single player lol

it can be a LOT haha

SDIJGSDLGJ

yeah no i'm...................... lazy. i just like to keep the people i'm interacting with most often

easier not to be overwhelmed that way for me

Agreed with Joe you're a delight on my timeline, and it's not a platitude. I like seeing you, I'm just not talkative unless I have something TO communicate, and tend to lurk and check on things, then disappear.

also gonna be super real here.......... i still struggle with the old paranoia sometimes and fail to remember: people are probably thinking about me way less than i think they are

curses, i didn't make this plurk to be attacked like this!!!

ty tho.................... ur very kind

If you do specifically want to engage in conversation, then it might be best to PP me or just @ me as a signal so I know you specifically want the conversation. You are also welcome to add me on Discord any time and just pop into DMs to chatter

But it's legitimately not anything you're doing poorly or wrong! I am a lurker by nature and with most of my friends, I enjoy parallel play as socializing.

heck absolutely i will pester you for reno cr all day every day

<3

I had a lil crash out there and needed a week of brain quiet to recover but I'm good for tagging!

no worries at all and i'm extra excited to get back into it with you!

everyone in this bar is a good

Also w the anxiety being a bitch thing it's very true, people have their own shit going on but anxiety is an asshole. If it ever tries to tell you mean shit, you're also welcome to reach out for reassurance any time or to ask anything. U can both add me on discord as carmina.cumulo whenever u want. If u don't it's also no problem, I'm usually just vibing

i added u

ty for reminder i cannot focus for shit today