the exes whose toxic household I just escaped have been emotionally and psychologically abusing me, exploiting me physically and financially, and criminally neglecting to take care of my basic health needs, since about 2019, with the severity increasing over the years

highlights include voluntelling me to interface with apartment maintenance and leasing, new house contractors, vehicular maintenance for a car that isn't mine, etc., despite me having severe agoraphobia and debilitating fatigue and chronic pain from fibromyalgia, under the implication that if I'm not working I Better Make Myself Useful (Or Else);

weaponizing therapy speak to make me sound unreasonable whilst they engaged in psychological warfare;

double standards for interpersonal behavior, e.g. how dare I tell the cis male that his words constitute gender violence, without asking him what his intent was,

but if I say something is upsetting me and that thing happens to be a neurodivergent stereotype I have never heard before in my life, I must have done so maliciously

only they are allowed to have magical intent

the veiled threat that if I don't contribute part of my welfare to house finances, when that welfare is meager state program welfare and not SSDI as I battle for that, I am financially a leech and may be unworthy of remaining in the home

also, when they did tell me to leave, with one of their complaints being a lack of communication, I told them I had been pathologically contact-averse because I was terrified their last communications to me (which were financial in nature) would result in them deciding I cost too much and throwing me out.

the cis male responded that if I was so afraid, I "may want to consider in-patient therapy."

...for being afraid. of the outcome. that was literally the subject of conversation.

I'm leaving things out for legal reasons, but let me say that one of my last communications from them boiled down to "you already owe me money, so how dare you [do the same thing that you've been doing since 2017 and] charge some of your toiletries and medications [to the card I expressly gave you for that purpose] on [our shared] walmart account."

the charge was $35.

the final inciting incident was the manic pixie dream girl making up stories about me maliciously not telling her I'd brought A Man over to the house, gasp, he could have seen her in a towel, [clutches pearls,] when in reality I didn't know for certain she was even there and was trying to dip in and dip out for a pair of sandals and a raincoat.

the A Man was my long-time boyfriend both of them have known since 2010 btw

afaic, I was thrown out over the cis man's $35 and the mpdg's delusional (psych definition) ongoing villainization/worst intent assumptions of all my actions

I say this as someone who experiences bipolar and OCD psychotic delusions myself

(may I add that when she liked me, I diagnosed her two of her current dxes based on my own, and she thanked me for both, but after I became pathologically persona non grata, any observation from me of her behavior became "don't diagnose me!!!!" even when I was pointing out symptoms (e.g. RSD), not suggesting disorders)

mpdg also screamed at me and several of our once-mutual friends on multiple occasions for perceived passings of judgment that were actually questions in earnest

I could go on

afaik my crimes are "not paying them back fast enough when my TDAP is $370/mo and the useless idiots at DHS keep failing to send me timely redeterminations so I keep losing even that income for months at a time" and "being mean"

in the exact same ways they were mean

They were fucking monstrous to you

both accused me of stopping responding to conversations when I didn't like where they were going.

both of them have done the same thing the cismale just goes to bed mid argument or pretends not to see discord messages, and the mpdg throws weaponized panic attacks and/or demands the topic never be brought up ever again

dynasty_decapitated: thank you

honestly I'm glad to be the fuck out of the seething miasma they both created; I'm just gunning for the rest of my property back, since they illegally prevented me from retrieving all of my things on their scheduled retrieval date

I have a list of several dozen individual items

I don't know what's wrong with them. You were there on their day

mte

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