i really really hate where consumerism and interpersonal relationships intersect
i notice the "if he wanted to he would/princess treatment/etc" mindset a lot among my peers. i hate that it has to be specifically stated when getting to know someone that i DONT need my partner to buy me things to feel loved, nor do i particularly want it
i notice the "if he wanted to he would/princess treatment/etc" mindset a lot among my peers. i hate that it has to be specifically stated when getting to know someone that i DONT need my partner to buy me things to feel loved, nor do i particularly want it
it's especially difficult as someone who should archetypally occupy the "rich girl" position as an upper class woman -- partners will assume I have material needs and plan fancy outings that just make me uncomfortable. when i voice this preference they're like "oh, i thought you expected this" and then i feel a little offended because i hate people like that
a lack of provision is not mistreatment or neglect if i never wanted it in the first place. perks of being unbothered and existing outside of gender roles and mindless consumption
