how does he get bullied?

(strange how his issues parallel yours...)

yes teach him teach him!!!

get him a pair of boxing gloves. heheh

or maybe you can do role playing at home.

his classmates ganged up on him trying to weasle 5 bucks from his baon. can you imagine that? LIMANG PISO!!!!

when he refused one of them grabbed him by the neck and strangled him.

his older cousin happened to come by and she hit the boy strangling my son with her book.

i wrong to teach him that being violent gets you nowhere?

getting violent per se does not get you anywhere. but sometimes, especially if it's self-defense, he should at least stand his ground

the goal is not to win or hurt back (although that would be great ), but more give himself proper self-respect, to defend his borders...

self-defense class like judo?

he's been having karate lessons.

he kicks his older brother really well. but can't seem to do THAT when it counts

i think it's more of teaching him how to have a healthy self-esteem

or maybe he gets shocked during such situations that's why he can hardly react

dementia i agree with you

more like shock i guess

so maybe drill sessions with the son?

he's a very gentle boy. (okay, i REALLY sound like a stage mom now)

eloisa has met him though.

for just 5 PESOS?!! what are kids up to now? I always tell my brother (younger by 11 years) to hit back if he's hit!

I grew up too much as a pacifist kasi so I wanted him to have a different view. heheh ayun, di naman basagulero but he's not a pushover.

well i guess i have to teach him to watch his boundaries and not let anyone overstep them

(i could teach myself that hehe)

if you don't mind me asking, does he have a good father figure?

dementia NATUMBOK MO!

next question please

oops... sorry for answering that question for you syarlen

hmm...

dont get me wrong -- he's a good enough guy. walang bisyo pero parang wala din sya. LOL

we basically leave each other alone.

some guys are like that. hay

well i did tell him that we should have good talk tomorrow (my son and i, not the hubby -- that would be useless)

good luck

thank you.

i think he'll be fine.

did any of you ever get bullied in school?

i did

a lot of times

i was bullied in grade school

that's why i am very very shy in person

meowbykate

i dont recall being bullied -- i guess most kids do get bullied at some time or another right?

eegs -- maybe i've blocked it out. LOL

i did. in grade school. mean girls!

should talk to my therapist about this

syarlen baka ikaw yung bully in school before!

you know, kids can be really mean. hope your son is okay

maybe not a therapist na. pero kelangan lang siguro maging mas assertive ung son mo. heheh

meowbykate i agree

di nga kaya ako ung bully noon - YIKES

oh no!

kaya i cant remember being bullied. oh no! karma!

the therapist sounds like a good idea. She can help you rehearse what to say to your kid & his teachers etc. Roleplaying sounds good too.

I hope he's ok. I hope it didn't traumatize him. And was it *all* of his classmates?

he's okay. just couldn't believe it happened to him. he's a bit angry too cause he said he just froze.

anger good. Sounds like he's already rehearsing in his mind what to do.

and I hope his teachers know and aren't apathetic.