will we discover they're vampires? does the camera steal their soul?

when you're insecure, the thought of someone taking a horrible shot of you and showing it to others is pretty awful

especially now when everyone and their mother posts every little thing to facebook <_<

I'm taking a picture of this Plurk and posting it to Facebook!

OHNOES

NOO WAIT my hair is out of place

WAIT IM NOT WEARING ANY MAKEUP

i suppose. but there are worse things than being ugly in a picture. like being ugly in real life.l

bahahahaha that's horrible

thing is...most people think they're uglier than they are. took me friggin years to see this. lots of baggage from middle school.

whatever- gay men are key to making me feel pretty. there, i said it.

ARENT WE BOOTIFUL?

like..i feel like i look like arsehole right now, but who am i impressing anymore.

people know me, my mannerisms, and all the other things that factor into my totally "beauty".

maybe i'd worry more if i was still "on the market".

...and meeting people online.

we're a plaid party

not everyone else is in that situation though, you said you didn't understand the phobia, so there you have it

so...learn me then. help me understand where that phobia even comes from. where it begins.

it's different for everyone o_o

some people are insecure because of their family life as a kid -- in fact, i think most anorexics are products of insane pressure like that

some people just had a horrible significant other, some people feel the need to look a certain way for work or dating

honestly i didn't care about my appearance until after i graduated HS and started having serious relationship problems that killed my self

esteem, taking better care of my appearance and attracting attention made me feel a little better about myself, as shallow as that is

(though appearance wasn't the only thing i changed about myself, it's just what's most pertinent to the topic)

when you're used to putting on a certain appearance for the outside world then you tend to feel ugly, or at least less acceptable, as your

well...it factors. i had the whole ugly duckling complex in high school. you aim to be more of a peacock in the end.

normal self, plus many insecure people have a need for control, and someone else randomly snapping your photo destroys that control

man so... i have to ask

how does josh factor into all of this? seems like a current boyfriend person would cushion the past insecurities a bit

it can cushion them, or it can go the polar opposite and be the thing that destroys you the most

if you're completely devoted to a person and they see flaws in you, it's absolutely crushing

is...he that critical?

he was, in the past, but i won't say it's totally his fault cause for a while i was a total lazy dipshit

he regrets it all now, but in a way i'm kind of glad it happened, it got me off my ass even though it sucked back then

:/

im trying to fathom the conditions to even warrant that.

i was a lazy sack who had no job and played video games all day long

i don't blame him for wondering if that was something he wanted to stay attached to

where does visual appearance come into play though?

and yeah, from a guy's pov i could understand. people like that end up feeling like anchors....and that's no fun.

yeah exactly...and when you're bored/unhappy with the person you're currently with, it's not hard to find other people physically attractive

i was never a crazy jealous type, but wanting to be ditched makes you feel pretty insecure all over, so i started trying to improve

everything about myself, appearance was one of those things

ahh, i can sort of see that.

strange the route it took to get there.

i have to comment though - you know what makes a girl really unattractive?

smoking?

haha, "if she smokes she pokes"...

well yeah that. i actually associate that with esteem issues and henceforth baggage.

but that wasnt what i was gonna say. good contender though.

when they speak. that's what can ruin it. if they sound ridiculously uneducated and arrogant in the same sentence as if they think they are

you know the type...

i agree 100%

thing is - i think most people are attractive in their own ways. it's when you have an ugly personality that really kills it.

people ask me what features i like most on a guy...and honestly...their attitude and outlook matters more to me than anything else

heck, even fat chicks can be cute if they're confident. but wowza, that's a hard find, but i have a few friends who are like that and i

think they're amazingly attractive people. i say it's 85% how a person makes you feel when you're around them. sure, being physically

gets you laid and instant attention, but it also brings about an entire crowd of fickleness, imo. frankly, that's NOT the crowd i want

to attract - which is why i dont aim to be some fashionista.

attitude + outlook ftw.

well from a business standpoint, being attractive helps a bit XD i shouldn't bring this up because it's so shallow...it's true, though

of course attitude and confidence are huge factors too, and your appearance should never eclipse your actual ability, just be a good bonus

haha. it is what it is.

marketing, advertising, salesmenship...all appearance.

i actually really hate advertisements for the most part, but that's another rant for another day. (who the fuck needs to be reminded that

mcdonalds still exists?)

COTTON. WHY DO PEOPLE ADVERTISE COTTON.

hahaha, i've YET to figure that one out.

or plastics.

or milk

do people in big business get their proposals from tv? fuck no. they get bids.

haha total 180 on this post. i feel like i can't comment anymore, lol

180 as in direction. not number of posts, BRADLEY.