No. Unless she's dying at 17, no.

i don't know.. not because of threatening to run away instead... but i have seen marriages starting with 16 and

going well.. so depends on a lot of factors i think

my oldest daughter is 16. There's no way in hell I'd let her get married now

Hell, no!

I was married VERY young (right out of high school). I've lived it.. I wasn't as ready mentally as I thought I was

well thats what I said at first hell no now trying to decide if I want a runaway child or married one

I ran away at 16. I quickly found that no job, no home and no money wasn't so hot and came back.

she thinks she is grown her bday is next week she already planning on quitting school and says she is leaving

if she's threatening to run away, chances are she wont do it.

i only have custody of this child she is not mine biologically but took her into my home and life 3 yrs ago

well i found out she has been talking to someone online an older lady and has been making plans to move in with her

been there done that. My daughter quit school last year (at 15yrs old in 9th grade). I homeschooled her for a year.. she realized she hated

it and she's back and on the honor roll this year

oh thats wonderful

she is a very very difficult child. I get where you're coming from completely

so maybe if given time she will realize too that she is not grown and the life she thinks she wants is not the right oneand go back

oh this is the child from hell I am her 4th home

I give you a lot of credit. You must be a very tolerant and patient person especially since she is not your biological daughter

this age is insanely hard

she was putting the ppls toothbrushes in toilet water and not telling them and they would brush their teeth and she would laugh at her pr

and she would laugh about it at her previous home

omg thats disgusting

oh gosh it is and I am afraid she is gonna affect my own daughter if I cont to keep her

how old is your daughter?

15

they are both 15 and were best friends but the past year has changed them they despise each other and argue

my daughter sees and try to tell her about the wrong choices she is making and all and so its ruining their friendship

unfortunately from 12-15 is a very impressionable age. my other daughter is 13 and she picks up lovely habits from her big sis

because the other one doesnt want to hear anything from noone she thinks she is right and noone else is

well so far my daughter has kept the values I have taught her growing up and tries to help out the other just doesnt work that way

but i know that can change in a blink of an eye

sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders

well ty lexie for your input and everyone else guess its take it one day at a time

yes my daughter does just wish I could get the other to be the same its so frustrating

yw and one day at a time is all we can do. I always remind myself that things happen for a reason.. i'm sure someone had a plan for you

yes and whomever it was I sometimes I wanna kick their ass and say why me? lol

Got any contact with a therapist or some such? Could probably help in her case.

I have taken her to a dozen or more therapist

I'm just saying, since she has her history, she's probably got alot going on and all that. Getting married might be for her like the last

chance of having something solid?

well she has something solid if she would accept it. This child has been given so many opportuniteis its unreal and she doesnt want any

she wants it her way or noway at all

she argues with everyone she would argue with her therapist for hours her time would run out and they would come out and get me

o take her home because she wouldnt stop arguing with them

Yes, I realize that, but it might not be how she see's it. *shrugs* I'm no expert by any means, I just remember that my reality at 16

not the reality everyone else saw.

what did you do?

I was a bitch, no doubt, arguing with everything, my way or the highway, all of that. I ran away.

were you a rebelious teen? and if so how long before you realized the things you were doing were holding you back

oh you ran away how long did you stay gone?

I also ended up knowing that no money, no job and no home wasn't very hot.

so you came back home?

For about three weeks. Funny thing is, I had an older girl (25ish) or so who took me in, everything was peach the first week then it went

I am just so afraid if this girl runaway her life is gonna be ruined and she will end up on drugs or dead soewhere

south very fast. Eventually I called mom and begged her to let me come home. I had been pondering it for a long while before calling,

and in my head I actually thought I wouldn't be allowed home again. _Again with the odd reality perception.

so your mom just let you runaway to learn life lessons on your own and accepted you back when you were ready

Well... "let me" might be a bit of a stretch, she searched for me high and low.

did she call the police?

my friends tell me if she runs away to call the police and report her missing

No, I actually called her the very first night and said "I'm ok, but I'm not coming home" kind of a thing, so yeah...

It's difficult, and I don't know how the climate is in your country, I think if this had happened today, my Mom for sure would have.

But 9 years ago was different.

well that was good you did that least she didnt have to worry about you not being "OK"

yes very true

ty kissowa for sharing some of your experience with me.

No problem, I really hope it works out for the best, maybe 9 years from now she'll sit and think "What a dumbass I was" like me

lol yes I hope so