man ... I feel like I've completely failed as a fantasy author ... by disliking so many 'genre greats'
does that make me really egotistical for thinking they just aren't that great?
No, I suppose it just means they aren't suited to your taste. i mean, as long as you don't think less of *other* people for liking them...
that kinda distresses me, however, because that sorta is the genre I'm trying to write in ...
does that mean that I'm out of touch with the genre?
Could be. Or it could be that you recognize what some things in the genre do, and don't want to do that yourself.