she should do whatever she wants because its her body and her life

This is true.

She didn't intend on this happening though.

how old is she?

16

fuuuuuuuuu, well I feel like there is really only one option if she doesn't wanna tell her parents...

I convinced her to tell her parents, though she is going to wait a while.

then that opens the options up, is the dad supportive? does he know?

He doesn't know about her being pregnant, neither does her mom. Thing is, she don't know if he is going to be supportive or not.

well does she wanna keep it?

telling the parents may also force her to take action she doesn't want to (they may insist on abortion or insist she keep it)

Her parents are against abortion, but pro adoption. She thinks she wants to put it up for adoption. She really isn't ready physically,

Or mentally to have a kid.

she should decide what she is going to do before asking her parents.

SHE anti-abortion?

Telling her parents, sorry.

She is anti-abortion, her parents don't accept sorry as an excuse.

No, I meant, "telling" when I said "asking."

Correcting a typo.

lol "hey i'm pregnant, sorry!"

"My bad."

not laughing at your friend, just at the idea of that statement as it was misinterpreted... oh dear this is awkward over plurk

well if shes anti abortion then she probably needs to tell the dad and make it clear to him that shes carrying the baby, and then she doesnt

know what she wants to do past that yet

he might be supportive, he might help

She should definitly do what she wants to do and what she feels is right for her, for her family, her friends, donor of seed, etc.

I think he has a right to know before her parents, in my opinion

my friend got pregnant at 19 and planned to give him up for adoption and once he was born she couldn't do it.

so i agree to maybe say "not sure what i plan to do:

"

The guy she did it with knows, he isn't going to do shit for her, he wouldn't even get her a test.

(my same friend ended up being a single mom, too.)

and getting support from the state when you're under 18 doesn't happen, so if her parents aren't supportive emotionally and financially

adoption is definitely a good option to keep open.

I'm just worried about my friend, she is my best friend, and I'm only going to be here with her for a few more days, cause I go off to

college. I want to be here for her, I feel like I'm being a terrible friend.

you can't put your life on hold for her, and she understands that i'm sure. the fact that you care enough about her to seek advice is really

a sign of a good friend. looking for help for her and offering your support regardless of her decision is what you can do for her

You're not being a terrible friend.

No matter how much you are there for her, this is something she will ultimately have to deal with on her own.

friends are really invaluable in these situations you can write to her and call her and all those things will help

Your support will make it much easier whether or not you can be there in person.

agreed

you could go with her when she tells her parents?

As long as they don't get the idea that you're the father... that could make an awkward situation much, much more awkward.

this is very true

Maybe open with that, to avoid a possible punch in the mouth.

Well, it is impossible for me to be the father, the thing is, her parents expect me to keep her out of trouble

which I have done up until now.

Do you feel guilty about it at all?

I don't feel guilty. I can't be with her 24/7. She is going to have to learn her limits on what she can get away with.

Good.

Guilt isn't going to get you anywhere.

Or her.

Do you feel angry at her at all?

I'm upset that she was so careless, but I can't be mad at her for having sex, that would be kinda contradicting of me.

I just meant for being dumb. She must have known what could happen.

Unless the condom broke, it boils down to her being irresponsible.

She was irresponsible. It did break and the guy lied to her, thing is, she should have been paying attention.

Jesus, what a dick.

Even so, I agree. She probably knew he was a dick and a probably knew not to trust him.

Especially when it was just a hook up and that was the first time her meeting him in person.

Ohferchristsake.

Exactly my thought.

Hello, I'm the pregnant chick, I'd like to correct a few things...

It was not the first time meeting him..

He's dick, doesn't give a fuck at all. Devin, you're not being a terrible friend, its NOT your job to ka

*keep me out of trouble.

Just walking up to my parent and saying "Hey, I'm knoced up, sorry" Would be a terrible idea, they'd beat me with a fucking brick. lol

But thanks for the advice, we'll see how it goes..

I don't think anyone was trying to offend you, we all wish you well!

Yeah, we're trying to come up with the best advice in a situation that honestly none of us would have a clue what to do in.

I would urge you to make a decision before you talk to your parents.

Also I would advise telling them sooner rather than later. They're going to find out sooner or later.

It might as well be on your terms.

We talked on the phone about it, she understands that you're not trying t offend her.

She don't get on here much, so I'm just saying what she told me, lol. She appreciates your guy's help

We do what we can.

Which is probably not a whole lot, since we are powerless to retroactively prevent pregnancy...

Yea lol.

Hahah. If you somehow wen't back in time and stopped this from happening, I'd personally find all your adresses and deliever a

big batch of cookies and some bubble wrap to your houses..

Oh, correction: Went

Well, Maggie, you can go ahead and give me cookies and bubble wrap anyways!