believes that loving someone means being willing to put their needs and wants above your own, and not just being willing to, but WANTING to.
yes!
totally
isn't sure she believes that. It seems counter-intuitive to achieving satisfaction and contentment with your partner, especially if the
formula ends up being one-sided in the relationship.
For me, I think love is about mutual respect. Understanding that the person you're with is on their own path and allowing them the space
to walk on it.
When conflicts arise, I think love is working to achieve understanding first before finding a compromise on the solution.
And that's not always easy. 
People all too often throw out "If you loved me, you would.... (fill in the blank.) Or worse - "I gave up such and such for you.."
And that just doesn't seem right, to me. Sorry for the ramble. Will tuck my soapbox away, now!
I do agree with you Evie, love isn't taking advantage of your partner either.But if you're not willing to step outside of your comfort...
zone for the person you're with, can you really love them?
for example, I hate crowds, they make me feel sick and anxious and awful, but I'd swallow that if it meant supporting someone I loved.
I think you articulate it well, that love isn't taking advantage. It's always going to be different from situation to situation, what we're
called on to do, for a loved one. I just think that the concept of sacrifice for love, is taken too far by most people these days.
And they -usually- expect something for their trouble.
yup, I agree with that too, I think some people over romanticise love and relationships these days, expectations are set so high.
Yes! Expectations. That's a huge one.