sorry to hear it. But she'll be stronger in the end for it, you know?

knows, but she, of course, doesn't.

that's the conundrum; you could tell her, but she won't believe you.

because *no one* has ever felt the way she feels right now

so much to go back down there, but my job may be to not. Raising women is a hard job. Someone else want to take over?

agrees you should not go down there. There's nothing you could do anyway. These are waters she must navigate alone - maybe with one or

two calls from Mom to check in.

thanks FB for talking me down from the tower. Again.

just let her know ur there for her but dont push. she'll figure the resr out on her own.

been there and done that. She won't believe she'll get over this, and won't listen to advice. Just love her, and listen to her.

reminds Beebs and tibbits that not trying to fix it can be a bit...challenging.

but that I will try.

empathy is the best remedy.

you should go. (My mother would have, and I would be stronger for it b/c she would support me in myself.)

going doesn't mean fixing. It means supporting and loving.

, alternately, you could invite her home.

i couldnt agree more .

KiWi and Beebs advice may be right. The first heartbreak Mandi had I bought her a teddybear and didn't say a word until she started talking.

she asked me not to come. I keep seeing that little girl with her hands on her hips telling her grandfather

"I can do it, Papa!"

atta girl.

UPDATE: The crisis has subsided.

wow, that was fast.

good to hear!!

rethinking the plan to move to Albq. Perhaps somewhere a little FARTHER away...

Abq is too perfect for you to not go!

you could always stay here

make abq look like paridise !! hehehe

glad that crisis is over, but wondered what happened still.

I'm not sure, but terms such as 'antidepressants' was thrown around.

(head scratching icon)

also failed to make the leap …

welcome to my world.

JanaL to find a leaping banana icon.

KiWi was on to something. Perhaps next time that happens make a trip and have lunch with her. That way all you do is talk and support her

in person. Plus, *real* hugs always do something for the greater good.

can get behind real hugs for sure

also the fact that you left it up to her to talk to you about it, will strengthen your relationship. i know from experience.

i have a mom that pushes to much to find thing out, and it pushes me in the wrong direction.