if there`re to be birthday canings? or if these are just generally due for behavior?

it's more to get me over my fear of canes.

if one really needs a reason for canings.

I only used to get canings for punishments. I mean real, hard, brutal strikes that left me in tears.

NYC guy is trying to get me over all that and learn that as he says:

Its not the implement, it's the one who wields it.