another anon here saying I know just what you mean, being in a similar situation myself

OP: How do you cope?

probably not very well! I think about them all the time even though they've told me not to fall for them, but I try to distract myself

and I tell myself that this won't last forever, if it's not meant to be, then something better will come, because thinking otherwise

too painful. and yet I still can't stop myself hoping just a little bit that for me, this person could be different

OP: Sounds familiar, I spent ages and ages trying to get over them, hasn't worked X years on.

OP: Doesn't help when they're your best friend and they're always around being awesome and lovable.

oh ouch I've only had this situation for a few months myself, I wish I had something more helpful to offer you

X = about 8 now I think

OP: Well thats hows long I've loved them, we dated for year three of that I think it was

OP: But we're just friends now..

that's pretty harsh, I really hope that soon you find someone who can love you

been there too.

what helped her most was not letting her feelings get in the way of her friendship with him.

story of everyone's life, dude. Yep, the only way to get rid of it is to find someone better. I know ppl will disagree with me...

but I believe that is human nature. to cling to something until something better replaces it.

suggests being pro-active and getting out there--if nothing else you'll find other good friends.

only slightly disagrees with Juls.

that's the easiest way, but not the only way.

it seems to be the only real way. I can't think of anyone who dropped a need without picking up another need to replace it

and at our age, companionship is a need. isn't our Erikson crisis cuddlinglovels vs. isolation?

... using different words.

yes, it is.