if it's a particular issue she has and seems like she has had in the past?

or is there something you can do to comfort her?

with her past, not that i know of, no. i'm her first relationship.

i think she's just worried that i might leave her because i've been in a lot relationships and had a lot of crushes

then maybe you just need to have a conversation about trust with her. Having to know where your partner is all the time is considered a mild

for of abuse.

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i don't mind telling her where i am. i don't have nothing to hide. i'm either working or hanging around at home on the computer.

it's just... the whole "who are you talking to?" "what are you talking about?" thing.

then you still need a conversation about trust

yeah, i'm definitely going to talk to her when i get home from work. cause last night was just a little ridiculous.

last night, i was talking to her while browsing my plurk and responding to some of them. she asks what i was doing --

and i told her that i was looking at plurk

and she goes "oh yeah? who are you talking to on plurk?" and it's just... really?

i'm not going to sit there and name every single person i've responded to.

Yeah, I admit it's easy to fall into always wondering what they're up to... but that's even further than that.

getting a bit obsessive, there. Time to have the old "back off" talk

thinks you should talk openly about this with her, she seems kind of paranoid.

how she is asking has a lot to do with it, though... it's hard to get tone via computer

juls a lot of the time who she's talking to, about what, where she is, what she's doing

just plain curious and interested, though. i don't ask in an accusatory/paranoid way (i don't mean to, anyways)

leave her

agrees that it depends. She might just legitimately be curious about what you're doing.

it's a little of both. i think it's because she's legitmately curious AND paranoid. because --

i do still talk to one of my ex-crushes and my ex girlfriend, but we're just friends

and she thinks that i might fall for them again if i continue to talk to them, but my exes are interested with other people

if she doesnt trust you that you wont fall for other girls its not going to last anyway

that it's somewhat understandable that she's worried, even if you're 110% sure you won't fall for anyone else

it might be best to focus first on helping her know that she can trust you, rather than just trying to get her to shut up about it, even...

though that might be what you really want. it'll work out better in the long-term

^- what hannah said

Her fretfulness could just be a case of first-relationship jitters; it isn't necessarily symptomatic of deeper control issues.

It could be, but I don't think you can know that for sure until you talk to her.

yeah, thank you so much for the support guys! i'll definitely talk to her about it <3

Good luck!