if the truth is something about them, about you, or about the relationship?

she`d approach each of those slightly differently.

one is about them, one is about the relationship.

the one that`s about them can be framed by your concern.

in that the reason youre concerned (and also the reason youre telling them) is because you love and care about them.

so its not quite as much - heres this thing you dont want to hear, but dont worry I still love you.

and more - I love you enough to tell you this, even though you may not want to hear it now.

the relationship one is a bit harder to do that with.

Somehow I need to tell Mr. Bond that I don't think the acting thing is going to work out.

he's 40 years old. If it hasn't happened by now, it probably won't.

what theother thing is

if he's any good or if the hard truth is that he just sucks.

centercat: I honestly haven't seen him in anything that he has a speaking role in so I couldn't say.

the other thing is something much more personal, so not sure how to word it yet.

post it when she can articulate it better.

that as long as he doesn't totally suck as an actor, and he isn't putting all his eggs in the basket of some future acting job..

..then it's just a hobby and personal interest, and who knows? Maybe he will be 60 years old and finally get a good part.

he's pretty much put all his eggs in one acting basket.

and I worry for his financial future, especially as he gets older.

suggests framing it that way then.

so it's not about his acting skill or whether or not he's good at it.

but rather, it's about the fact that you know he doesn't currently have a lot of well-paying acting gigs, and you're concerned for him.

making sure he knows you're not suggesting he stop acting / give up something he loves, or that he's not good at it.

only that you worry it isn't supporting him as his only career.