i'm still not sure entirely how this works. i have people that

... oops. i have people who "fanned" me i'd like to friend. but then i friended them and they still show up as unconfirmed. that bugs me.

hrmm that is frustrating alright - have you mentioned it to amix or someone in the plurk team?

Alright, friends are basically granted more access to your plurks. You can plurk to your friends only, and your fans wouldn't be able to -

- read that plurk. And really, Friends are FRIENDS. Random strangers you met on the internet aren't your friends. They're your fans.

But it's a bit tough to change that mentality.

yes, i agree with this approach - probably offending some people by not friending them - preferring to friend people i 'know' at least a bit