maybe just the picture....

Um... depends. Do you want to stay married?

Probably best I keep him to myself. He is a Black and Yellow Garden Spider, Argiope aurantia

Reading up on them. He's a She, cause it's the females that get bigger that an inch.

She's a beauty, but not all appreciate this kind of loveliness. I'd appreciate her more outdoors than in.

I am with you there, Ddaisy. With all the gardening you do, you probably run into some doozies.

if you have to ask, then you already know the answer! very neat looking though

Well, here's the scoop. We ask the "known" because we want reinforcement. Part of me was saying I need to show her still.

She does have an extreme arachnophobia and might go into shock if it surprises her.

After an hour of teetering back and forth, I did show her. I get to do all of the weeding, gardening, ...

... and have to bug spray the neighbordhood.

(or neighborhood)

but nobody reinforced it

The angel on my right shoulder recommended I let her be informed and know that I am here to protect her and eradicate the problem.

Vs the devil on the other that would not tell her and let her skip thru the garden, sit on her little tuffet, eating her curds and whey.

if you're sure its halo wasn't being supported by a couple of horns?

Catch 22 in my book. Do something about them for sure, without accolades, let ignorance be bliss and worry she's playing in the minefield.

Or, do something about them, inform her, let her think I am a jerk for showing her, and she be cautious and tiptoe thru the tulips.

you'll never get everything completely free of bugs, so you might as well let ignorance be bliss!