Yup, and I wish I had done things differently, though I'm not sure if it would have worked out even if I had done things right.

So I've moved past it.

I felt that way for a long time, but finally realized it would have never worked.

so do you think you would be more prepared to try again bc you know going in it may still not work out andyou have dealt with the pain of losing them once?

Typically it just doesn't work like that, unless maybe a lot of time has passed and both parties have changed enough to make it work

I made the mistake of trying over and over, and kept getting hurt over and over

and it doesn't really hurt any less to lose them a second time. or a third.

my situation is just so hard bc the relationship was amazing the year it lasted and i think he just got scared? i'm honestly not sure .. but i'm having his baby and i feel like if we could make things work ...

I think the only way I'd try again is if she lived in my area and we had time to hang out in a non dating capacity.

but i'm just wondering how do you try to get back to that knowing how bad it hurt the first time

lol @ cake

he stepping up to take care of the baby once it's born?

yeah .. and he already has an 8 yr old and i know he's an amazing dad. we actually spent sunday night together and things happened...we've said we're gonna spend time together and see what happens

i'm just scared i'm being stupid! lol idk why i love him so much but i do

Why did he end things?

well you have a different dynamic going on, with the baby coming... maybe just see what happens? things could naturally happen on their own once the baby is here and you bond as parents

he said he felt like he was holding me back and couldn't give me the things i needed like marriage and a baby (ironic i know cause i found out a few weeks later he did indeed lol)

and then he said later the last month we were together he wasn't happy but didn't know why bc i was the nicest girl ever blah blah but by the time i found out i was pregnant he had a gf already

zas i agree... i'm trying to just not rush things or push them but i'm still scared of being broken again lol

it's hard, i know!

it's so funny cause i still remember telling you i thought i was and then ta da

yes!! totally remember that. i was all NOOO DON'T WORRY IT'S JUST STRESS

lolol

lmao right? and in my mind i'm like yeah it's gotta just be stress

the stress is kicking me right now D:

like i had wine and everything ready for after the test

lol

I would tread carefully then, there's not much you can do if he was unhappy, especially if he can't or won't tell you the reason. More than likely you'd both be back in that same position unless you figure out

how to change what didn't work.

Also, if he doesn't want marriage and you do, don't count on being able to change his mind.

the thing is i never even said marriage was something i had to have. he's been divorced so i kinda figured he may not be too thrilled to do it again

actually i never said a kid was something i had to have i just wanted the option to be there

yes, and she still haunts the deep dark recesses of my brain to this very day

so yeah..that's the hard part. if he wasn't happy then i can't really change that

aww petrie

smirks no matter how hard i try, how many people yell at me over it, or quite literally smack me upside the head... she's always there... it's like some really lame movie, honestly

lol i totally feel you. can i ask what happened?

she didn't feel the same way, so she moved on

So now wwe have to jockpunch him.

_meme: true dat

ugh see it sucks when there is nothing you can do to change things

it makes for a bit of a bumpy ride, yeah

Life is funnnn at least we have each other!

_meme: and your cats

exactly..and if u bishes ever defriend me i will hunt u down

makes sure Meme's sitting between him and Jess for the time being

I think it's a lot easier when you know there's nothing you can do about it than to wonder if other actions would have changed things.

speak of the devil....

i think in the back of your mind you still wonder though where you went wrong.. how you didn't see any signs of them not being happy ect..

Or wonder if you somehow screwed up... or are just inherently screwed up.... hypothetically speaking, of course...

exactly

Yeah, but you're just torturing yourself at that point. If there's nothing that can be done, you just have to let it go.

There could be a million reasons why it didn't work, and it may even not be something bad or something you would change. The fact is people just aren't compatible, so it's better to use that energy on someone

who appreciates you for what you are.

some people*