I don't remember if I was on plurk during this time, but a best friend of mine from highschool got married last year in the summer

And I was her maid of honor

During the planning time, I made their invites, paid for my dress and another bridesmaid dress because she couldn't afford it, contributed to the cake, missed an entire weekend of work and sales

made her bouquets for her and her bridesmaids

it's a three hour drive to her house, which I had to do, also picked up and dropped off one of her bridesmaids on the way in and home because she had no ride

i busted my ass basically and it cost me somewhere in the 300$ range to help her through her wedding

And I stood next to her while she said her vows to always love and cherish the guy she was getting married to

And the next week on facebook, she puts up this whole religious rant on how homos like me don't deserve the right to be married

And people were calling her out on it--her excuse was "hate the sin, not the sinner"

Which is the biggest load of bullshit I have ever heard

I'm gay and that is who i am

So if that's a sin, then I am too.

Fuck you and the horse you rode in on if you have a fucking problem with that

I don't seek approval from YOUR GOD to live my already moral life

I don't steal, I don't kill, I try to live my life as morally sound as any jackass.

That doesn't make you better than me, okay?

I unfriended her and we haven't talked since

Anyway, she sent me a text yesterday, which I did not respond to, and called, which I declined to answer, and then apparently she tracked me down and realized we weren't friends there

And proceeded to message me saying "dude, why am i not on your friends list anymore?"

I'm trying not to write back with the most snarky response

why aren't we talking?

Cause you're a narrow minded idiot who thinks it's okay to do that sort of thing and post shit like that up, even though you KNOW RIGHT WELL I'M GAY

AND HAVE, or so I thought, SUPPORTED IT SINCE I CAME OUT

I fucking stood next to you while you got to do the thing I want nothing more than to do

do you even realize how much that hurts a person?

I want nothing more than to find someone to spend the rest of my life with and have a union and little babies

BUT IT'S FUCKING ILLEGAL.

I just

I can't wrap my head around how fucking narrowminded she is

She lets her religion just fucking eat her entire life up, and I just... HOW can you fucking live like that?

Like seriously?

I'm not easy to offend

and everyone has a right to their opinion, sure

It just

hurts when it comes from someone you supported during the happiest time in their life and they don't have the common courtesy to support yours.

i dont want that in my life

Maybe when you've had some time to let it unhurt as much, send her a reply and te her what you're feeling? It might help if you feel better if you apologize. If she's not the type to apologize, then

Maybe...she's not the type of person you need to even upset yourself about.

And don't worry, sweety. Things are getting better. I know it feels sometimes like it'll never happen, but it will! Things are just moving slowly, like all big social changes do.

DOMA getting trashed has already helped pave the way for it in the future, we're getting there.

And you know what? I know it

Wouldn't be recognized, but I say if you've got someone you want to marry, then you go out and have the best damned, gigantic, not-legally-recognized wedding anyway! Show them you don't give a damn about what

They think!

If I had someone to do it with, I would totally do it! Civil disobedience of the best kind!

You don't need their opinions on whether it's real or not to tell you what you feel in your heart!

Wow, that's... special. I think you were right to cut her off.

ugh, that's disgusting. especially if the reason she contacts you is suddenly because she realized you removed her from fb. i've been in a similar position (albeit more recently) and it sucks to lose-

-those people, but i think you made the right choice in the long run. you shouldn't have to change or fold. they're objectively in the wrong.

tronja307020 Thank youuuu ;; I know it'll happen someday, and I do plan on doing a union party thing if/when that happens for me. It just doesn't change the hurt factor in it. I'd have invited her to join in

solarysa I think so ;;

esuna I don't doubt I did. I'm gonna respond, I'm just not sure with what yet

good luck, i hope it goes well.

Thanks bb c:

if you want to jam, we'll listen.

I think you did plurk about it...I remember you mentioning going to the wedding. I might have missed the whole her being narrow-minded and rude.

You are such a treasure, Corey. Your friend was a moron and still is. I don't know how or why it took her this long to freaking realize you removed her

That just shows that she's taking advantage of how great you are. If she couldn't realize that then she's not worth your time. And more importantly, if that's why she talks to you and not because--

-she treasures you as a friend and a person, she's definitely not worth it.

That... really sucks. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

PanPirate ;; Pannycaaaaaake thanks bb. ... yeah she posted that around april of last year :/

btmighty thank you bb c: It kinda comes with the territory, and I can tolerate a lot of hate. just not hate from friends.

Cooooooooreybear <3