I honestly don't know, I'm horrible at it myself.

This could be a nice starter "I am not desperate and not a creep hitting on you for sex, I just want to socialize and am not very good with it so let's start at the beginning.. Hi "

Yeah, I'm socially inept around strangers. I tend to stand around hoping someone will speak to me. Which of course never happens.

same here.. we could stand in the same room for hours and not speak a word haha

Wear the penis under the trousers. Helps a lot!

And I used to yak at people in General chat first then IMs. I think talking to peeps in public feels less.... idk .. privacy invasive or whatever you want to call it?

I make the effort to say hello in general, sometimes someone even says hello back. Usually not so much.

afraid this is one topic I can't help with, as I'm pretty asocial.

That's OK. I remember it being easier back in the day -- That or I was better at dealing with people.

And if it sounded like whining, it wasn't intended that way. Just feeling socially awkward and was half hoping someone had advice and half venting.

I -think- my new AV is interesting -- I hope so with all the time and L$ I dumped into her. Nothing for it I guess but keep a stiff upper lip and keep on keeping on, until I start making friends in world.

I may get frustrated. But I am not a quitter.

TeslaTempest: I am a profile perver, and almost always initiate conversations in IM based upon something I read in another person's profile. a sincere compliment is always appreciated

Also, I try and jump in on local chat now and again, so when I do approach someone in IM it's not like I've been hiding in the corner, stalking

I guess I need to work on that. I am always afraid if I speak to someone in IMs they'll think I am hitting on them, or inviting the, to hit on me.

^^^

fretwerk: that said, it's sometimes easier if you're a bit shy to 'jump in' at a fairly busy place. Then you don't feel like your words are hanging in the air for long moments

Lots of good advice. I guess I just need to start being more bold and less of a scaredy cat.

Say hi I"m not a creep , how are you...

I think the creep ting is more commonly expected from a guy...there was a whole long thread about it on SLU a little while ago. So you should be mostly safe. And when I do try to be social, it's in local

I love meeting people on my sim and enjoy chatting with visitors, but sometimes if I'm out and about I get really shy as well. I usually just say 'hello' and then let them take it from there.

Currently trying to find good hangouts with generally friendly people seems to be my hangup. Gothika is great, but they don't have shows every night. So... Looking for places to go.

Night Hallow castle/club has a pretty get set of folks that run around. I will send you the lm in world.

Thanks!

You're welcome

Night Hallows is definitely a good one, I worked there for quite a while a long time ago - still friendly with the gang and try to go visit when I can, just so busy with my own sim these days.