we were talking about abusive men. I said, if anybody beats me up, I will beat him back. *When he's not looking, like when he's asleep*

Actually that's a good point. They call it battered women syndrome or something. The women can't take the abuse anymore and kill the abuser.

he thot I was talking about what I'd do to him and he kept assuring me he's not abusive *lol*

been abused before, mentally, emotionally, physically. I fought back and 10 years later, the fella is still trying to crawl back. Haha!

not kill the abuser lah... unless it was unintentional... I just want him to have a taste of his own medicine. Let him know, not all women

oh no

are hopeless and can be abused.

at this moment, I have two young male cousins whom I've heard, beaten their wives. I also heard that they didn't fight back. Like, WTF?!

i think these women has a deep desire or unrealistic hope that the man that they love will change

it takes strength to get out of an abusive relationship. Not all women have that strength and I admire you, shutter for that strength.

rinaz spot on! i was like that - i wanted to change him, but i knew nothing would, so i left

Thanks Mintea! It was the worst 3 years of my life!!! My mom wanted to fly to Jersey and kill the idiot.

What doesn't kill, makes me stronger. That, plus a few other things, got me out of my rut.

It's scary to think about and scarier still if you're in that situation.

luckily I didnt turn out... different... but it did lower my trust in ppl, men esp... my bf thinks it's unfair i don't trust him 100%

who the jersey guy? I will beat him up (and then after that go sight seeing)

Mintea yea, esp if you really luv the person and have put a lot of effort into the relationship, it does put one in a difficult situation.

rinaz good idea!!