My parents aren't. I know how you feel. What's happening?

My dad called my mom and asked why I cut my hair. And apparently, she launches into a rant about how he has no right to ask that cause he's a shitty dad and whatever.

Then she messaged me saying I should tell him xyz about why I cut it and I said, I'll tell him the truth. Cause I wanted to.

Then my dad called and was like, am I not in the position to ask why you cut your hair? And I said yeah, of course you are.

JFC. Over a haircut? Talk about petty.

And he was like, okay, good because apoarently your mother doesn't think so.

And I don't get why she's upset. It doesn't make sense.

I'm in the primary custody of my mom. I have been all my life. So obviously, most parenting, financial and otherwise would go to my mom.

But she holds that over my dad's head, literally all the time.

God....

I don't see my dad much so obviously, I'd wanna see him and talk to him as much as I can. And she takes that to mean I "worship" him.

I'm so sorry, hon.

I think she feels like, out of solidarity, because she hates him, I should too.

I mean, he's my dad. He has 4 other kids to take care of. Obviously he can't throw all his money at me.

Yeah. I get that. My mom used to be the same. to be fair, I did kind of worship my dad.

And because my stepdad spends money on me, she expects me to like him. But he's a condescending douche, money or not.

I love my mom, I do. But times like this, she makes it really hard.

How old are you?

Almost 15.

And now she's saying, since I prefer my dad, she's done with me and he should take care of me by himself.

That's old enough to make your own choices. Idk about custody laws there but here, you could technically choose to move in with your dad at that age.

Ignore that. I'm sure she's just saying that out of hurt feelings. That doesn't make it right and it doesn't make the words hurt less, but I wouldn't take her seriously either.

(headdesk) I cannot with this woman. Seriously. I was an only child for 13 years. Obviously I wasn't hard to care for financially. My dad has 4 other kids to take care of, logically, he wouldn't put so much--

--effort into me since my mom was doing a pretty good job on her own.

I don't wanna live with my dad because I will literally kill my stepmother and her nasty ass kids.

No I know. I'm just saying. If she's going to shove you in the range of fire, use that as a shield.

It's what I'd do. It's kind of a crappy thing to do, but... Would and did do that.

Sigh. I am cold and angry.

And my mother is an emotionally manipulative bitch.

Yup. Totally feel you there. Taking advantage of your emotions and playing on knowing how you'll react. My mom totally did the same thing until I was 17/18.

Ugh. I don't need this right now. Senior year starts in a few weeks and I have other things to worry about.

if I could take you away from it, I would. I would move you in with my mom. She's tons better than she used to be.

Thanks, love. I appreciate the sentiment. I'd totally leave the country if not for school.

takes you and holds you tight oh I know, all of those things are terrible. I have been there too, same time in my life too. I think it is sixteen that you can pick where you live here. Not considering the

step-siblings, who do you prefer to live with? Many adults fail to see how much it impacts the kids and how terrible parents can be during and after a divorce

I've never lived with my dad so I can't really make an informed decision.

Hey love I'm sorry you're getting caught between your parents and I wish there was something that could be changed about it I have to hope that part of the reason your parens are fighting over you

Is because they love you, and they want to know you're being taken care of. But I agree that cutting your hair seems like a petty thing to get upset about, it's just how you want to look

I can't. I really can't with them.

Well I love you and when I come to Jamaica one day I'll smuggle you back to Canada with me

YAAAAAAYYYYYY.