Eldest son just graduated from college, so did his live in GF, they're in Ohio. They live together, they've been together for 3+ years

He's staying over the summer to keep working with the place he interned at to bank some money to move home. In the mean time, he's coming home for a week to go on some interviews

the day before my hb's huge blowout birthday party here, all the brass of the FD, PD and every friend we've had our entire lives

the last time his gf was here for twenty days, she slept 'till 1pm, beautified for 3 hrs, ate dinner, then they went out and partied

she never spoke to us, she'd finish eating, leave the table and live on instagram, FB etc. I'm not exaggerating

so.....he wants to bring her

I know I should be nice and just suck it up, but she's a slob and I don't want to be all frazzed when I'm putting together this event

oh and they've broken up 3x bc she cheated on him

FML

oh damn

I don't blame you for not liking her

i dont have any advice except exactly what LaurynArado said.. damn and I don't blame you one bit for not liking that skank

I know what I'd do but I'm hard core. I can't tell you what to do thats your kid.

ugh I know my aunt had a hard time with the gf my cousin had she was like that too.

I'm SO hard core, but what if she ends up marrying him

oh Jesus no

the other 2 kids...I LOVE their SO's....like love love love

that's the problem, you can't really go hardcore because if he ends up marrying her you are suddenly the asshole who hates her child's wife.

gawd Inno and I really don't want to be THAT person, but she's srsly void of all manners whatsoever

it's like one of those things you gotta grin and bear it but lawd, no idea otherwise hugs I can offer you lots of hugs and good thoughts and hopes he realizes what a cooze that one is

Yeah you have to keep it to yourself, and just hope that he realizes she's not the one for him

he said the last time he was here, we were in the car and he's all...mom, I think she's the one...and I was all...if you THINK she's the one, she's NOT the ONE

lol

oh noes

and then when he caught her making out with their roommate he broke up with her and there were angels singing and a new orleans band playing

lol

uhm I would hope that now that they're out of college things change and he sees her on a different light

but they patched it up then she went on a date with her ex on the DL

oh god

innoright??

and I can't be drank all week bc this is a huge event I'm putting together

lol

but I'm still not ruling it out

hey may marry her. I would tell him she wasn't welcome in my house and if she had to be there he could find somewhere else to stay. But like I said I don't believe in grinning and bearing shit

if they get married you'd be grinning and bearing it quite a bit.

but there is always the chance you and your child may become estranged because of it. So its a trade off one misery for another

Inno, and he's the coolest kid evarrr and we're tight

I'm just going to have to be straight up with her and say okay here's the deal, you won't be on your phone 24/7, you will have interactions with everyone, you won't leave the table, you will clean that room

you won't sleep all day, and you won't party every night

wait wait

lol

you plan on telling a grown woman she' can't be on her phone 24/7?

Yup

good luck with that

srsly she'd never speak to anyone, phone at the table even, finish eating and go sit on the sofa curled up with her phone

my youngest kept looking at me like, omg she's gonna blow any second

lol

so when they were here that guest room looked like a bomb went off and about 5 days in she says, "that room smells kind of rank"

I go in there...they had brought home some to-go salmon dinner and left it in that room in a bag...lol

I would not say anything to her, more like let her keep doing what she's doing, the main point is your son realizing she's no good

unfortunately if he doesn't come to this realization there's nothing that can be done, and he can only do that on his own.

that's what I did last time, but it was so unlike me not to say anything

I just hope she screws up real bad again and he dumps her lol

ME TOO

I feel like Im in a reality show

I really think now that college is over and they will be out in the real world, their relationship might end

I do too, he's really ambitious and I think he's going to move past her quickly

well my aunt dealt with something like this with her son, and she was nice to her, this chick was so weird she was always rude and making bad faces at all of us

lol she sucked it up and I think very subtly advised her son and he realized she wasn't what he thought, and then getting to leave his apt was another problem lol but it happened

*her to leave

I'm going to take the high road and just hope her behavior is in such contrast to ours he'll see

You don't have to play the heavy directly. Put your expectations of her on your son. Tell him what you want and that him keeping her following the playbook is the price of her admission to the party.

And explain that this is especially important because there will be so much going on with prepping for the party as well as entertaining the brass people at the party that...

You won't have time to deal with her care and feeding, so you need him to help you.

I'm familiar with slobs like that Better to have her away while you plan all this stuff.

Thannk you gais, really. I feel like such a bitch, but my house is like the place I go to get AWAY from ppl...lol

I'm with LannaB, who makes the fine point that her behavior reflects poorly on him as well as her. If he knows what the expectation is, he can be the one to communicate and handle follow through.

Yeah I'm hardcore as were my parents. My brothers first wife we all hated and he knew it, we even tried to talk him out if it standing outside the church. She also knew we hated her. Same went with

Anyone I dated or other siblings dated. They all knew they were disliked or hated.

So if he was my kid he would already know what I thought of her.

there always has to be ONE pain inna ass, srsly...everyone else...awesome, I wish the youngest two would get married tomorrow, I LOVE their SO's

I already DID tell him exactly what I thought when they broke up the first time...lol...and then I routed him about the last time they stayed here which is why I'm super bummed I'm in this sitch again

if she is always like that I Have no idea what he even sees in her