We have luxury amenities and almost no space for an extremely high price right now. I want more space for less money and am willing to sacrifice the amenities. He wants to maintain the status quo for less cost.

It's hard looking for a new place.

I mean, this is probably the biggest disagreement we've had since we met in 2007. This is gonna be tough to navigate and I'm afraid I'll be on the losing end because I'm not a fighter.

Mostly, I'm afraid we won't be able to compromise and it'll plant a seed of resentment that we don't need.

Do you have to decide by a certain time?

marilynknits: Yeah, within the next month. We can't afford to live here any more and the lease is up at the end of February.

We are in the same boat. Our lease is up at the end of January. Our rent has gone up $400 a month in the 2 years we've been in our apartment. It's nice but it's still an apartment. We decided to buy

We looked at our first house last night and put in an offer (so unlike us). They accepted today. Everything is going really fast but it feels right. I hope you're able to find just the right place.

I hope a place comes along where neither of you has to "give in" to be happy.

I hope that you find a great place that meets both of your needs and wants.

Does he have a specific reason for wanting to keep the high end amenities? Or an idea of what else you can cut costs on to save money

elsewhere to pay for the high end? Try talking through the why's and see if you can find the root of the disagreement.