Let me know if anything changes

...seriously?

let me know if anything changes

=_=

Like, am I the only one that thinks that's an assholish thing to say?

Not even a little.

'aw man, your sexual preference is only for men/women. well let me know if anything changes!' <- would you fucking say that to someone

IKR??

And yet, I have had no less than three guys say this to me.

it's not a vow of celibacy wtf

Like... I'm flattered? It's nice to be thought of as attractive? But, dude. Dude. Think about what you said.

...I haven't gotten over the "what in the hell???" to get to the annoyance

i've had that said to me as well and i'm ace. but my lesbian friends have also had guys say similar shit to them

or the ever popular 'well you just haven't been with the right guy yet'

sure bro

Oh gods, FUCK THAT ONE. I spent years under the "Maybe I just haven't found the right person yet!"

same

sorry, this isn't a disney story. true love doesn't break this spell buddy

I mean... maybe for some people there's that one person? Maybe? But holy hell assuming that's the case is so... incorrect I can't even find the words for it

And then I was like, "You know, I'm pretty sure I'd have had those kinds of feelings for the wrong person by now if I were allo."

And if there is a "that one person", it's up to THAT PERSON to decide if "that one person" really IS that one person

yea, basically at that point they're just trying to talk themselves into your bed -_-

And, y'know, it's not like I'm sex-repulsed or anything. I've had numerous partners. But guys, guys, you have to understand, it'll never be a priority and it's never going to Go Anywhere.

are you me?

I MIGHT BE

i'm onto you. /points at eyes, points at you

It probably is complicated by the fact that in all three cases, they are guys I've had sexual encounters with? Back when I was still in the "Well... maybe if I give it ONE MORE CHANCE..." mindset.

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...yeah, they're probably going "Well we already..."

But still. Gods, dudes. Just because I'm capable of sex and have consented doesn't mean that's what I want in my relationship with you.

Not that it makes what they're saying any better or more logical

I kinda wonder if they'd respond like that if I said "Turns out I'm gay!" Which I wouldn't do, because that's... not cool... But that seems to be a clearer message.

It might be worse.

I don't think that would change anything

Probably not. And they're not bad guys, really? They just... IDK. Think with the wrong head.

And probably don't really understand what "aromantic" or "asexual" actually mean.

I'm guessing there's probably not a lot of people "out" as that where you are

I haven't met very many, no.

Probably. But even so.

can confirm that telling them you're a lesbian probably wouldn't help

I've generally let it slide because they're my guy friends and I'm pretty sure they're not trying to be offensive. But maybe I should start calling them out on it more.

Beyond just, "...you are aware it's not going to be changing, right?"

(The response to that usually being more or less, "yeah, but in case it does...!")

:|

i find straight dudes pretty insufferable on this topic

Guys why tho.

cause dudes are taught entitlement

I swear I will drill it out of my child.

He's a cute li'l white boy, and right now, a very sweet and generally respectful child. But if I ever hear of him swinging privilege and entitlement around like dick, I will nail his ass.