the realtor in Michigan called to ask if hubby was available. and apparently she's frustrated and pissed with him and just took it out on me

because some of the houses we're having her look at are in the 25,000 range but some of them are closer to 200,000

also, because of the nature of the area, some of the houses aren't just all 10 minutes from her office

so she calls and bitches me out about it and tells us if he can't make up his mind, he either needs to find another realtor or be out there to look at them

the thing is, if we were out there right now, we'd still be driving just as far...

and no, we wouldn't take the first house we saw

the real estate market, hell the BUSINESS OF IT is so fucking different out there, at least to hear her talk about it

I don't want to sound like some entitled asshole [which I really don't think I am, because I was a realtor for a year, so I get it] but I don't think that if it's the last house you may possibly buy in your life, that you should have to compromise and over half of the things you wanted from that house

I think she's pissy because we didn't get all excited about the two she pre-picked for us and expected us to pick from

I know she doesn't get paid until she sells something, but I guess they don't work like we did here in Lawton, either

when we had a question about a house, we pulled out our directory and either called the listing realtor ourself, or their assistant, or even the office assistant (since they usually knew the details on EVERY HOUSE THEIR FIRM LISTED)

I know I won't find exactly what I want, but that doesn't mean I want something I don't care for even remotely, either, especially if I'm expected to move out of a house that is pretty damned close to what I want (if hubby died tomorrow, I probably wouldn't move out of this house until I died or couldn't stay on my own anymore)

and it's somewhere I've been for almost 15 years. and my kids are close to me. and we've added on things we like. to somewhere where we barely know anyone, over a thousand miles away, and most of my kids aren't even with me

yeah, excuse me if I don't jump at the first 3 houses you show me. now around here? we had one realtor one time who didn't listen to what we wanted, spent all day taking us around to things (flat out showed us a house with a pool when we said we didn't want one because of the extra work and safety issues, cus 3 kids)

actually, that was last time we lived here, so we had 2 kids and I was pregnant. and they were small kids, then, so even worse, yeah

that is the only time we ever dumped a realtor and ignored that they'd gone to effort for us. we had told them we wanted to live in the small towns or out on the fringes of town or in a rural house.

yeah, that one in the center of town with a pool was telling us they hadn't listened to what we were looking for

every other realtor listened and we looked at maybe 10 houses tops by the time we picked one.

I also don't care for someone taking their frustration with someone else out on me. that was unprofessional as hell

...I mean, in this case it would've been unprofessional no matter what

when your damn job is to look at houses for clients, taking out frustration on said clients is pretty bitchy

yeah. and it's not like we're going to get away with NOT buying a house

there is no rental market

and we possibly need TWO houses

if she's getting that annoyed she should just tell you guys to find a different realtor who's more suitable

I kind of want to at this point

still bitchy, but at least it maintains some level of professionalism

since she's obviously not the right person to find the property you want

but she was recced by someone in the church and she actually lives in the town where the church is sigh

(and this is why you don't take those sort of recommendations in the first place)

sob

(because then when they go badly, you have a connection. grrrr)

the really sad thing about this???

the house we had questions about today is probably the one we want

if she'd held her tongue, there would be no upset at all

but I did sort of need to know a few things like the room layouts, which we couldn't see from the pictures. because it looks like one of the bedrooms is completely open to the living area, no doors. I think it's fair to know that before I make an offer on it, you know?

it isn't a dealbreaker, but it's something I have to know ahead of time that I'd have to work around

yeah

so don't in person tell us "oh, well I don't have a family, blah blah blah, I've got all sorts of free time" and then call ME on the phone later and say "I work 3 jobs and this isn't going as quickly as I want it to"

if I recall, we looked at 4 houses while we were there. we drove outside of one that wasn't on the market yet. we asked her to take pictures of one that was 5 miles away from her and then asked her to put an offer on it. someone beat us to it

she is probably upset thinking these lower cost ones mean she isn't getting paid much for her work. but no, if we buy a cheaper house, then we'll end up with TWO OF THEM damnit

because we'll give one to our daughter and then be able to buy an even more expensive one than we ccould right now as soon as this house we're living in sells -_-

so yeahhhh

which if she listened to us, we've TOLD her that

because yeah, unless I sell most of what we own, I couldn't live permanently in a 2 bedroom house with a thousand square feet, especially not if the Bratling is with us.

or Brattiest and the new baby

but could hubby live there? could we visit him once a month until we sell this one? no problem

we did that in Texas

we stay here in the home we already own outright until it does sell. once it sells, oh gee, we can definitely buy a nice house

a VERY nice house

and she already has the commission from the other one in her bank.