My BPD interprets this as abandonment so like basically don't ever just drop contact with me out of nowhere and expect me not to react badly.

that is a fair request

2 different people here that I know of have done this so far it messes with me and I don't even know if we're friends anymore at this point and I can't ask

fff I am sorry friend

I continue to be a friend and follower. Even if we don't socialize much, the times we do are pretty great.

Yeah I just don't know how to reach out to people

Same. Pays to be honest about it though.

I am also terrible at communications most time, I usually am texted first before I reply and that is bad, please dont ever think I abandoned you.

^^^ same here tbh

I wish it were as simple as that but my BPD ass interprets any lack of communication as abandonment as well. Can't help it. So then I'm left unable to even reach out because "they hate me" because that's what always happens.

Also this thread was mostly to vague at those who have unfriended me here without telling me and making me feel like shit over it because it just further proves I have like no friends offline that want to be around me.

that's fair. And hopefully the fact that people reply to this proves that while we don't always have time, we do appreciate the time that we do spend with you /o/ Like, I've been working full time so not a lot of time outside that, but you're always welcome by the store to hang if you want

yeaaaaah I know but I hardly ever have the energy or spoons to leave my house and it terrifies me and I'm not always in the best mental state to deal with a bunch of other strangers around when I'm trying to see my friend you know?

fff that's fair

I;m still here. And I get the abban

abandonment issues. Its a fair request.