I hate how family feels like they can say ANYTHING. they don't need any tact

come to think of it, that's what I hate about Michigan, too

the idea that many of the people think they get a say so and they know better and they should have input in your decision

none of you in my timeline have done that, so please don't feel attacked

but I bet you have family or know people that do it -_-

this, because we put an offer in on the house Thursday night, and then had a meeting with one of the ladies in the church Friday morning. we didn't tell her we'd already put an offer in, but we said we had looked at a house in that other town

the house is 23 freaking miles from the church. we currently live miles from anywhere we go to in town, in Oklahoma.

30 or more miles

jeez. our kids rode the bus 18 miles to school. it's 15 to the closest place to get milk or bread

driving isn't an issue for us. we are used to it

this house is damned near perfect for us

and for anyone to dare say "why are you looking in that town?" or think we have to live in their town is ludicrous and upsetting

for a while, I thought it was one of those "you are our pastor, we own you" type of deals

we want you here, so find a house here even if it doesn't work

but I think it's more of a "we're from Michigan and we don't have a problem with bluntly and tactlessly inflicting our opinion on you even if you don't want it" type of thing

so not only are we dealing with disapproval and possible nosy annoyance from them on our home choice, but now we got up to hubby's dad's old farm (which we own jointly with his brothers and his younger brother stays there now - it was technically left to us first, but we can't sell without offering them first dibs and splitting the profit)

and his brother planted pine trees all across the side border of the property... right where we need to pull our RV through to take it in and out of the pole barn

even when we bring a trailer in or out, we have to go right there where he planted the trees

because the drainage is bad in the front yard and it gets muddy

so you can't turn around there, only where he parked the trees -_-

he didn't ask first. also, apparently that means he isn't ever planning on leaving anytime soon. he had originally asked to stay there while he got his feet back under him, financially

we were going to be retiring there or using it as a backup property if things don't work out with this church in michigan

when it's jointly owned but one person is responsible for it, you don't do something permanent without consulting the others

hits head against van window repeatedly

also, apparently I am babysitting tonight. my oldest gets to go out (and undoubtedly get drunk with her best friend) while I have to watch a 3 month old... so much for getting 2 days of vacation while we're here.

pretty sure the only times I didn't have a baby with me were when I had college classes or meetings with the other army spouses once or twice a month

this was just a "okay, I'm going out with my best friend, mom and grandma are expected to watch the baby for me overnight, btw, mom, I don't trust grandma, so you have to take over so she doesn't screw up, but I'll let you take the fall out for that" thing

no wonder I get cranky every time I visit. family doesn't think they need to have care for feelings as well, apparently

and that whole regional culture misunderstanding thing I've talked about before

it makes my head throb

so that I feel like I'm whining every fucking time I visit here