Months ago a friend invited me to join a Stylist Association she was in on her main-account. I did so and the SA has made big progress

The President was mostly absent until recently and when she started posting on the Bulletin Board she has been very Mean Girls

She publicly went off on my friend for having the same hairstyle on her avatar as her. Then claimed to only be joking when my friend responded

My friend asked me if she left if I would leave too and we start our own SA. I volunteered to make it since I had more Diamonds on hand

She left, I said I'd leave after the Server Reset time to gain my SA reward (there was a later arc suit I was one item away from finishing)

I didn't realise there was a 12 hour wait between leaving a Stylist Association and making or applying to one. I said I'd do it immediately after my time period

There's a time difference between my friend and me so I got up as soon as my 12 hours was up and made one to DM her the details.

She said she'd join after work. It wasn't until a day later that I received a new member application. And it was from her side-account. Not her main

I accepted it but asked her about it. She responded that she was going to join with her main but just happened to be accepted in another SA but wanted to join with me too so used her (lower levelled less played) account to join mine

I told her I wasn't comfortable with the pity. She responded that I shouldn't be having a problem with it since she still joined my SA but we needed to start recruiting more members.

I thought on it overnight and transferred the President-ship and left the SA I had made after Server Reset. I couldn't deal with doing all that effort to get.more members feeling like she didn't really want to be there

And she went off on me. That I was a bad person for.trying to guilt trip her, and I was overreacting. That she thought equally of both accounts and I needed to stop being upset about it

That I was "boasting" about all I had done when it could have waited, and she didn't think I had any reason to be upset.

Obviously it couldn't have waited since she searched and applied for a new SA before my cooldown was over even though we had agreed to start our own.

And the timing is such that it's like she felt bad so left an SA with her side-account and had to wait to join mine.

But I'm really, really upset at the accusations

Saying you are upset to someone after they have done something selfish is not guilt tripping or overreacting.

Yeah, removing myself from the SA and leaving her side-account alone in it was a big thing. But I really don't think I could ever be comfortable in it

She doesn't even have me as an in-game friend on her main-account which didn't bother me much until this. I asked and she stated the friend limits

So 50+ more people are all more important to have is what it felt like. But that would have been a compromise; Add me on your main instead of entirely saddling me with your side now

But the overreacting and such accusations have really set me off so I extracted myself from the conversation

It gave me flashbacks to toxic social circles I had where it was up to the person who caused upset to decide if the other party was allowed to be upset

That otherwise they had to stay positive and act like things had never happened or risk ostracising

An ex-friend used to delete her posts/tweets and demand someone delete their posts/tweets too if they had a negative interaction with her. That they were a bad friend if they didn't

And not to ever bring the negative interaction up again. Everyone was expected to act like it never happened. And if someone was still upset they were a bad friend

But, yeah, there was nothing that could have made me stay in the new SA with her. Even if she joined with her main-account afterwards. I don't want to work with someone when I doubt they even want to be there

She disbanded/deleted the Lumbry SA I left her with

she sent me a response Friday morning but I ignored it so far. I haven't read it yet even

I had an interview on Monday and have been cramming to do my Interpretation I: Public Programing homework

I have too much to do to give emotional energy to the incident