HI I HAVE MISSED YOU ALL, I HOPE EVERYONE HAS BEEN ALL GOOD AND GEKI AND STUFF >:C
I have been good! And Genki! But not at the same time because >8C LIFE IS WILD
my life has been Work at 7am, get off at 4pm, get home at 5pm, crawl into bed, sleep, repeat.
>:C which tbh has been a nice change of pace from not sleeping and suffering big constant ouchies all the time.
well...iet's just start with last weekend and work our way up to here. I had an emotional breakdown. Like...airplane nosedive. Like a "She's doing grea-- ohhh oh wait, holy shit, she just died."
basically, the estate sale for my late parents' house started on Thursday, and I asked for permission to go and take a look at everything one last time. The estate agent told me that I could, and that I could take anything as long as a picture was taken. And so I obliged.
and i brought a friend, who would use some of this stuff in her apartment she's getting this fall. Everything will eventually come back to me, but...she needs it. and I would rather see my parent's stuff go to someone I know would take care of it...so we looked around.
the estate sale lady kept the memorables under the staircase. there was a heckton of stuff. albums, pictures, cups that I made for my mom when i was a little, little girl...you know. the emotionables.
between the house looking completely upside down and all of the things i was going to have to find a place for, i was starting to get anxious. and then the saleslady started inspecting us and we caught her searching our cars
she was looking for things. and we were taking pictures and had nothing to hide from her, but it just...idk, it felt like. we were in the wrong. but we weren't-- it legally is my inheritance...but it's hard to rationalize with someone when you feel like the ground beneath you is crumbling like it's made of sand.
"I need my commission, and I just have to make enough to be able to pay my people, and i need the commission so please look carefully and decide whether or not you need these things."
"It's been a rough 4 weeks. Very emotional for us. Your parents lived here for a long time, and it's been hard to get through all of this...we just want to make it worth it."
so...i was irritated. and just. feeling very out of my element. and my friend saw this...
...I'm sorry, it's been rough for them??? BITCH YOU'RE TALKING TO THEIR DAUGHTER*.
I'd have hauled off and hit her, Jesus.
i'd have kicked her ass on the spot, jesus
she pulled the saleslady aside to ask her if she could please give me some time alone with the house-- we had packed up both cars and i had to take the memorables to the storage unit and..i was just. idk. raw, and numb. and uncomfortable.
it felt like she was pegging me as a thief. like i was stealing money from her. but...the things i took have meaning. and the people who took them are my dearest friends. and...idk. i think that my parents would have wanted it that way.
if it's legally yours where does she get the dick to give you shit
the estate sale lady leaves the house and called my uncle-- my dad's brother. Told her that my friend was extremely rude to her and that i was taking "everything."
complained. complained that the hard work she's doing is going away to my "rude friend", and that...it's not okay.
can you complain to whoever this soulless lich works for
and my uncle, who i am not very close to, calls me
because it's none of her goddamn business
and he's...angry. and i don't answer the phone because i'm driving and it was just one of those things where we Aren't Close, and I knew what he would ask me about
but he left me a really nasty voicemail. Ashamed of me.
what the fuck is wrong with these people
sorting through the legal things is stressful, and that what I was doing was not okay, and that my friends aren't allowed back at that house, basically..
take the whole fucking house
....@ everyone

you guys.

i just love you guys.
i'm sorry i'm having a fucking coronary on your behalf holy shit
rent a uhaul and take everything not nailed down
No, serious, I'm with Nao on this.
And strip that place down to the floor.
The fact your uncle didn't even take your side on this... smh
I called my brother and was having a meltdown. he called my uncle and then called me back and told me that it would be best if I just
complain to her boss, take all your shit, and give it to whoever you want
apologized. "Use your customer service voice," was his recommendation.
She gets nothing, he gets nothing, and take them to fucking court if they so much as breathe a single word of complaint.
YES A HUNDRED PERCENT HOLY FUCK COMPLAIN TO HER BOSS, TAKE YOUR BUSINESS ELSEWHERE
ROFL NO YOU DON'T OWE PEOPLE AN APOLOGY
OH MY GOD I'M GONNA FIGHT YOUR BROTHER
I'M GONNA FIGHT YOUR UNCLE
I'M GONNA FIGHT THIS TAINTED BITCHTIT
no, no...I mean, in the long run, it could have helped? MY BROTHER WAS TRYING TO SMOOTH OVER A SITUATION AND...idk. :C
Seriously: lodge an official complaint.
i called her and apologized if something offended her, and she yelled at me a bit.
ROFL YELLED AT YOU HAHAHAHA
That shitbitch should be fired, Squish.
I would have fired her on the spot
no it's actually terrible to apologize to people taking advantage of you????
i can't overstate how much i'm serious about complaining and taking all your shit out of the house
squish i know you aren't in a spot for confrontation but
this bitch needs to be FIRED
she is supposed to be working for YOU
YOU are paying HER to make things convenient for YOU
brother recommended that i also apologize to uncle, because he's just stressed and it might just smooth over some awkward patches.
Channel your inner soccer mom who's latte got made wrong, call her boss, and nuke her entire career as hard and thoroughly as you can.
too fucking bad, so are you
She should not be allowed to keep that job.
i didn't do that. and...idk. it's just. :C LAYS HERE GUYS I JUST DIDN'T FEEL LIKE I DID ANYTHING WRONG
YOU ARE WAY MORE STRESSED IN THSI THAN YOUR FUCKIN GUNCLE AND
YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG
he doesn't get to get handled with kid gloves if he's gonna treat you like a five year old
I STILL DON'T FEEL LIKE I DID ANYTHING WRONG
THAT'S BECAUSE YOU FUCKING DIDN'T.
THAT'S WHY YOU DON'T FEL LIKE
EVERYONE IS BEING SHITTY TO YOU
there is no buts here babe
...Seriously I'm saying it hyperbolically but I'm not joking.
yeah....i'm with you guys.
absolutely with echo, really
'legally it's mine,' FULL STOP
SHE HAS NONE CLAIM TO YOUR SHIT
this is a woman who's livelihood is dealing with people going through a loss
SHE FABRICATED THIS WHOLE BULLSHIT TO YOUR UNCLE
the estate sale was to start on Thursday, and I told myself that if she talked to me again, ever. Ever. I would do what I could to have her fired.
honey no she needs to be fired
the contract is between her and my uncle, who is the executor of my dad's estate.
Like. She's actively trying to cheat someone she knows has recently been orphaned out of property that she knows is legally theirs.
She's a fucking con artist.
hhhhHHHHH okay even if the contract is between her and your uncle
I walked past something in the house that I thought I might like-- a mug holder that I hadn't seen before.
she's trying to guilt you so she gets a bigger commission
can you imagine her treating someone else
Not even the interesting kind of con artist, who wrings money out of rich men at parties, the shitty kind who eventually ends up in jail for a ponzi scheme.
She's that kind of con artist.
nd my friend walked past that mug holder and said "Hey, do you want to take this?" and I said "I'll think about it!"
can you imagine her treating somebody else going through a horrible traumatic loss like she's treated you
she took off the price tag and changed the price to $20.
you are saving future people from being scammed and taken advantage of
oh my god what a fucking lunatic?
GUYS I AM JUST LAUGHING AT THIS WHOLE SITUATION
SHE LOGGED EVERYTHING FINANCIALLY THAT I TOOK
squish listen to me you need to complain about this
AND TOLD MY UNCLE THAT SHE WOULD RECEIVE COMPENSATION FOR THE ITEMS TAKEN
Bring your friend along for backup, have a witness.
i'm glad you're laughing but
yeah this is a nasty, awful bitchy woman
i think i've just been laying on this all week and now i'm actually talking about it and
i get the kind of headspace you're in, i really do, but holy shit no one else in this situation will stop this assholery
but like, holy smokes...i'm really upset!!
your brother should've had your back
yeah. I intend on leaving a bad review, and a memo for whoever she works for.
instead of telling you to apologize
i'd call who she works for directly ngl
he did-- and he tried, but he's ultra non-confrontational. If I avoid conflict, he straight up turns into a houseplant and shuts down entirely.
email would probably be easier to keep your thoughts together
i get that feeling but at the same time
so...he was trying to help in his own way, but...idk. it didn't feel right.
like god considering there's a good half dozen people in here ready to yell about this with you
Yeah, speak directly to her boss.
or yell at people on your behalf
Better yet, actually- find out who her boss works for. Complain to them.
yeah. i just feel like it's going to come back to me.
If at all possible, get them to call her into the room while you do that.
Really get her to squirm.
Like, you know that feeling you used to get, when you were a little kid and you got called into the principal
i told them that to close this case i would reimburse the trust fund where the sale is going by the amount of money that I...well, that I "stole." because...it's just. It's valuable? It's money? But it's just that. I would rather have those memories.
i would give it all back for another day with them.
you have literally done nothing wrong here, and if anyone in your family gets pissed that's on them
How you knew you'd done something wrong, and it seemed harmless at the time, but it didn't now and you knew you were going to get in so much trouble?
Make her feel that again.
and i really don't think you should have to bUY YOUR OWN INHERITANCE, SQUISH?
aalksdjfalksf you did not
squish honey i know you're not confrontational but you have got to hold your ground sometimes
YEAH NO SERIOUSLY THAT'S THEM TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU AND IT'S SUPER FUCKED.
If necessary, press charges.
or at least threaten charges
like jesus christ you can not let yourself be steamrolled by them or yourself
like she's......frauding you
well, my uncle said in the end "It isn't about the money. It's about your friends being rude to this woman who has given fOuR wEeKs of her precious time to help us organize that house.
...............................................................
your uncle's full of shit
i will buy him a plane ticket
he got lied to and didn't ask your side so fuck him
BASICALLY THE PIECE DE RESISTANCE IS THAT I HAVE NO FAMILY OUTSIDE OF MY BROTHER AND BUN
YEAH IT'S NOT A FUCKING CHARITY SHE'S RUNNING HERE
okay well wanna know what
brother is like "We have to stay close to them!" but THEY ARE LEGALLY FORCED TO GIVE ME WHAT THE TRUST FUND DICTATES BECAUSE IT IS NOT HIS MONEY
Walk into the office and say- and make sure you say it out loud in front of all her coworkers, so they know and can hold it over her head, so that she knows they'll talk about her behind her back from now on- exactly what she did, and that you want her fired. Not reprimanded, not demoted, fired. Or you will sue.
YOUR BROTHER NEEDS TO SIT DOWN AND THINK ABOUT WHAT'S HE'S SAYING
;A;

SAMMO OF COURSE YOU GUYS ARE ALL MY FAMILY
AND IF HE DOES NOT REALIZE WHAT HE'S SAYING
THEN HE NEEDS TO JUST SHUT HIS PIE HOLE
i just meant like. immediate famfam. I have cut ties with aunt and uncle, and mom's side.
alksdfjlk i know what you meant but :c
Like, you know that absolute bitch who's completely heinous to retail workers? This isn't a retail worker, this woman makes more in a week than any of us do all year. Be that bitch.
or even - it's not about being bitchy. do you want her running this same nonsense on more people?
I asked her last week on my friend's behalf if we could take the beds before they get donated-- because we were looking out for her commission!! And...y'know, if they didn't sell, we would take them
and she said: "I'll let you know on SUNDAY because they'll still be available on Saturday."\
yeah....yeah. she tried to make nice with me via text and I just...actually shut her the hell down.
(but....as for the family thing. i've also had to cut off family and. it's hard? but your brother can make his own goddamn decision about that. if you've decided that you're healthier and saner and happier without, then. then it's sad but better and your brother doesn't get to make that decision for you)
SHUT IT DOWN LIKE SIX FLAGS IN NOVEMBER
C: she said this morning: "Heeeyyy!!! We're extending the sale to tomorrow! Did you still want the bed? I can give it to you now!"
that analogy doesn't work
OH MY LORD THE GAUCHOS ON HER
Yeah, it's... I know it's a lot easier for me to just say this than it is to actually do it, you're dealing with a lot and I apologize if I'm just pushing you and being unhelpful. You're doing so much and being so much stronger than I can imagine. Don't forget that you're amazing and you have all our support.
"HIII I'M ACTUALLY A GOOD PERSON AND REALIZED THAT I MADE A MISTAKE IN UPSETTING YOU TO THE POINT OF HYSTERICAL TEARS??? CAN WE BE FRIENDS AGAIN BEFORE THIS WHOLE THING IS OVER?"
But yeah, shut that shit down.
that is not being a good person
yeah. i just need to name of her business so i can just start going on social media. C: and I'll talk to my brother about it.
he was so mad, I've never seen him so angry.
he was at home the whole time, playing the vidya, and my roommates/friends got home before I did
bun:
and they told him what happened
and he called me and I happened to be just parked in the driveway
nd he scooped me out of my car and carried me inside and we talked and i cried and he
was a good bun and he can stay.

good
he called my uncle because he was just. pissed off. Because at that point, it becomes the word of the saleslady over my word, as his relative.
and my uncle was like "Legal! It's all to make this easier on the legalities! And we told her the dates and when she could get stuff and she was out of line!"
and he said, and I quote:
"She was not out of line. It's her house. Left to her, by her late parents." and he was actual venom and anger and uncle was just like "It's not anything against her!!! Just for legalities sake!!!"
again legally all the shit is still yours if he wants to pull that garbage
so your uncle's a fucking imbecile
Bun talked with him and smoothed some things over but it ended in them wanting to talk to me
and bun was like "No. She doesn't have to talk to you."
i will issue a formal invitation to catch these hands
so...I'm okay. I know what I must do, and bun was a very good bun...
AND WE LEFT WITH THE STUFF THAT I WANTED.
but...Y-YEAH IT'S BEEN A WEEK OF LAYING ON MY FEELINGS AND T H E R A P Y
my therapist was mad, too...
therapist can also stay. with blackjack and hookers.
IT'S A THING TO BE MAD ABOUT
he's a nerd, and i just think he's super awesome and he was like "IF I SHOWED UP (which i won't) TO THAT HOUSE I WOULD SHOW THAT WOMAN THE BACK OF MY HAND (which i won't but!!!)"
i swear on my life if i were in your shoes i'd have actually thrown hands

I'm glad they helped.
he had to throw in the I WOULDN'T EVER DO THIS BUT I WOULD ABSOLUTELY DO THIS
yeah. throwing hands has gotten weird and a lot harder. Life in general is just a lot harder. >:C so...one thing at a time
nd if the only things i hang onto are my sanity and optimism then...LET'S JUST START WITH THAT AND FIND EVERYTHING ELSE ALONG THE WAY
and also i hkafhkjwebjkfew love you guys so much holy smokes ;A;
YOU ARE ALL TOO GOOD FOR ME
SOMEDAY I WILL NOT BE SUCH AN INITIAL COWARD
JUST AS GOOD AS YOU DESERVE
and you're not a coward you're just
and we love you
BETTER THAN ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DESERVED, YOU BEAUTIFUL BEAN >:C

You're not a coward you're a sweet wonderful person who deserves all nice things.
yes

squish getting the scritches she deserves
I don't want to drag your attention back to this unnecessarily but get her fired, take whatever you hold dear, and tell your uncle he can take a long walk off a short pier. You are grieving. You are allowed your memories. She is not entitled to your property, nor your grieving process.
What she did was so incredibly not okay, and I will dismantle this woman if she ever so much as breathes in your direction again.
yeah...and it's okay! I appreciate you guys all thinking of me.

and...yeah. idk.
i wish it didn't happen, but...it did. and the reality of it all is just that my last living connection to memories of my parents outside of my brother was cut out of my life because one woman wanted money.
and I wouldn't argue that she did a good job-- and she did a lot of work...but the way it was handled was insensitive, and in the end, it's just money.
Holy shit that's so much manipulative crap just to get their money. Wow. You have to do what is comfortable for you but man that is so many levels of not okay. I'm glad you at least got what you wanted and I hope things moving forward are far, far less stressful.
You let us know if you need anything at all, Squish.
I'm not in a place where I really know what I need. But I'm always grateful for what I have, and that includes you beautiful lot.
OR AT LEAST I'M TRYING TO BE GRATEFUL BECAUSE >:C HOT DAMN LIKE I HAVE SO MANY HOMIES IN MY CORNER AND JUST
i have a roof!! and food!! and a bed!! and I have bun and my three little cat babies and like
>:C idk. i have sticky notes reminding me about the importance of gratitude and sticky notes reminding me to let out the breath i'm holding.
You're an absolute treasure, never forget how wonderful you are
YOU'RE AN ABSOLUTE TREASURE AND I JUST LOVE YOUR CUTE FACE >:C
no, i watch a lot of ANIME >:C
I HAVE THE POWER OF ANIME ON MY SIDE >8C
i am personally going to shit in this woman's mouth
I cannot BELIEVE??? HOW MUCH OF A VILE BUCKET OF CAT VOMIT SHE IS??
I didn't mention it before, but while i was standing in that closet under the stairs, she was on the other side, wanting to talk to me about the items that were leaving
How dare she put a price tag on things that you legally own. How juvenile does she have to be to CHANGE THE PRICE RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR FUCKING FACE because your friend P O L I T E L Y removed her from a situation to give you a moment to fucking gather yourself.
but that staircase closet has one exit, and she was basically blocking my path.
and how dare your uncle put "the legalities" before his niece's own emotions.
while i'm standing in a room filled with...yeah. Yeah...
that's SUPER threatening???
idk. it's an awkward situation, and...laying on it has helped ease some of the discomfort that comes from chopping off extended family.
Get this woman fired immediately
she is a fucking parasite.
my brother supports me, but he's worried. They don't talk to me anyway-- they only talk to Graham, and...it's just. the whole thing is awkward and wrong and...just thinking about it reminds me that i need at least 20 naps before I can start thinking about the situation again.
ugh, I am so sorry you have to deal with this, all of this asinine bullshit. You have lost so much, and I'm just...I'm amazed how little your extended family cares, emotionally.
I absolutely think she's a parasite. And I'm ashamed of myself for even apologizing to her. I'm sad. and angry. and yet...it's almost over, and i can leave my review when it's all done. and my uncle can fight me if he dislikes it.
well...mom and dad left us a large sum of money. more than we'd ever deserve. and so I think that they think that's enough to sate us.
Like, I don't think they fully realize you're basically an orphan and that they should, as your only living blood relatives, be a little more supportive and treat you like, you know...FAMILY
It's not their business to know or dictate how YOUR PARENTS give away THEIR MONEY?
yeah. Grandma and Grandpa are still calling and insisting I come over and leaving angry voicemails with their names and a phone number, whenever I feel like i should stop ignoring them.
my whole family situation is, er, askew. I think dad really held the family together, and him passing away is giving people the ammunition they need to push each other away.
the thing is, you're not obligated to give anyone your time
and if they can't act like true family should, then they don't deserve that title and what comes with it
and a part of me is guaranteed that if money wasn't involved in any of this, they wouldn't give a SHIT about "legalities"
Oh my god this person sounds like an actual monster
I'm sorry to reopen that can of worms but I am just shaking I'm so angry
I think this is just making me laugh because I'm in such disbelief that people like this actually exist.
God bless bun for ripping into your uncle. I knew he was a good from when I met him at your wedding.
I'm gonna send him a #! Husbun mug so help me god
he's such a good.

he was upset that I apologized and just hugged me and we just hugged for a long time
because apologizing is such bullshit, you had nothing to apologize for
Also like, I know what everyone's said and that you don't need to apologize (which you don't!) but I'm also going to say that you don't have to be ashamed of yourself for apologizing either.
you did nothing wrong, and if anything, your friend actually did the right thing. that saleswoman is just a fucking dirty sack of leeches
I am shook. What did I just read? NO. No you are not in the wrong. How DARE this agent speak to you that way. How DARE your Uncle be a dick. How DARE all of it. She was your Mom. The end. Everyone else can do very colorful things I can't say in this plurk without offending everyone tbh
Sometimes we get pushed or forced into situations where we feel like we have to take a certain action, and beating ourselves up for it afterwards will only serve to make us feel awful about ourselves and like this lady has already done enough of that for you
ALSO YES YOUR FRIEND IS A TREASURE I'm glad you had someone to pull her aside, even if the lady twisted it afterwards, I'm really happy you had someone in your corner in the moment <3

mmm. you're probably right, too.
she saw that I was emotionally wibble wobbley and just went and spoke with her without letting me know. and she was super nice about it, and didn't strong arm her into leaving- the saleslady just left of her own accord, happy as can be.
"I'll lock up! Have a great day!"
and then called my uncle to complain.
my friend was ready to fight, and also ready to apologize, but i wouldn't let her.
what a two-faced shit in a box
because it meant so much to me to have someone thinking of me strong enough to ask the woman to leave.like SHE DIDN'T HAVE TO DO THAT OR ANYTHING AND YET SHE DID
and the thought behind that action was just beyond good. and i didn't want her to apologize.
so I guess that's why I apologized. because my friend didn't do anything wrong. she was there with me, at my house, with the things that legally belonged to me, and just helping me out. so if anyone was at fault, it was me. but I wasn't really at fault.
but...idk. life is already awkward and hectic enough right now.
I think the best and most succinct compliment I can give you is honestly just
you've done everything tohru honda would have done under the circumstances <3
/RESTS SQUISH HEAD IN LAP LIKE A PILLOW
I JUST LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH >:C
8C i think your keyboard tooted.
Ninety-one Squishes... can you imagine? That much cute in one place...
It's too sweet and powerful...

me immediately
i'm crying roxy your keyboard
I don't have anything else to add here other than I love you Squish, I am so proud of you for reaching out and getting through this, and I am happy to continue to be here for you because you are a wonderful, amazing person and I adore you.
shows up very late but god im going to pit wrestle your uncle and sue that lady
she is one hundred percent trying to scam you and you one hundred percent need to fire her immediately
she is taking advantage of your grief and disorientation
she has absolutely no rights in this situation. contact your lawyer
i'm glad your friend was with you and that she's got your back
you've got a wonderful support system and i'm happy for that
but yeah. if your extended family can't take your side on something so basic, fuck them
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