and proceeded to tell almost no one until i realized my first instinct in new and confusing situations is not a healthy one so here I am. one of our trainees at work is trans and I didn't feel like I realistically could until I saw how cool people were with her. But now comes the part where I worry about how to Look Right which is silly but it's a thing

and like how do I navigate the nonbinary part of the whole trans thing? and now I have to grow my facial hair out gradually in front of customers and like... i feel like without knowing fashion stuff I'm just going to end up coming off as an ugly girl? idk

the 'looking right' thing is always a rough feeling to tackle with, but at the end of the day the best thing to remember is that you don't have to look a certain way if you don't want to. because no matter what you look like, you're still nonbinary

and in case no one's told you yet: I am proud as heck of you

Now that I’m sort of at the point where being out is a real possibility I guess gender-as-a-performance is on my mind, maybe I should focus on just being this, and try to sort out where the line is between my thoughts on my gender itself and what I genuinely want out of like, how i perform gender. Or whatever. Also <3 thank you, that means a lot to hear.

Lady at personnel asked why i wanted my name badge changed and i had no idea what to tell her XD How do you say ‘i’m trans’ without saying it - and more, without leading people to believe i’m straight up a guy, which idk whatever but that wouldn’t be accurate either

I mean it was fine she was just like ‘what’s wrong with kara, do you not like it’ not in a demanding way, just a casual way, and even though I don’t not like it i was just like ‘nooooo...’ and she didn’t ask anything else. But it would be useful to know what to say in future similar situations