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I also have an instagram which is public and is almost entirely art or Blixa: http://menace.to/....propriety

...okay it's menace (dot) to (dot) propriety

Basically my therapist pointed out how unhealthy it was that I was keeping Facebook around for the sake of maintaining "relationships" with my family, when they were actively practicing shunning

good for your therapist and good for you

and I realized I keep a lot of people around on a lot of social media platforms in the hopes of cultivating better relationships, while those platforms just made me feel badly and the relationships didn't improve. So I've literally lost nothing.

transilience: thank you, it actually feels good? Like. Not comfortable and not pleasant, but definitely like draining a wound.

also I was beginning to froth at the mouth about the Blue Pumpkins / Autism on Halloween thing.

Because tbh the last thing an autistic kid needs is to announce to everyone that they're Different on the one night you should be allowed to pretend not to be.

The alternative to making neurodivergent kids carry around Special Blue Pumpkins is you, an adult, stop forcing kids to say 'trick or treat' for their candy and just give it to them.

people blow my mind

I got in a fight about that this morning.

yeah, quitting facebook was the best decision I ever made

and oof

Anything I said on there, I can say on a blog somewhere, or scream into a pillow. I was mostly using it as an online photo album.

I did not know about that thing! I actually only learned blue pumpkins were a Thing the other day, and the way I heard it they were for keeping hypoallergenic candy in

Yeah that's the other thing, like. People are confused about what they're for, and rightly? Kids CARRYING them means they're autistic, one set outside the house means it's got candy alternatives, looks like

weirdly, I never had trouble with saying trick or treat because it was a set script

it was What You Said so I couldn't get it wrong

same ?? And wearing a costume like...helped

but ymmv

but I get there are some kids with like severe nonverbal issues. But also that's not exclusive to autism

definitely forcing a kid to say it who doesn't want to is bullshit tho

yeahhhhh

just! normalize kids being awkward!

and the whole thing with like. Food alternatives is just odd to me. Because the parents are going to go through that bag like airport security when they got home and remove the allergy riddled foods anyway if their kid's going to die from it

you would think

anyway someone on my (also autistic) friend's post said autistic people (tm) need to stop complaining about solutions without giving solutions of their own and not everything is ableist. I was like. Okay, well, the article we all just read here, the Complaining Autistic Person (tm) suggests not forcing kids to say 'trick or treat' and just giving them candy

that seems like a solution to mE

she didn't like that

which is fine because she can go fuck a rake

"no I meant a solution that involves me not changing in any way"

^^^^^^^^^^