I’m aware that i should be doing tags/working on top level(s?) but i don’t WANT TO

starfaring: coming in clutch

Finn, 24: If they could go back in time and give themselves one piece of advice about relationships what would it be?

“Stop it”

GENUINELY THOUGH, he’d tell himself to chill out, and probably to prioritize the feelings of his partner and not be so self-centered!

Finn has the privilege and honor of having had a bad break up at a young enough age that he’s been obsessing over for the past couple of years, so he would have VERY EXACT opinions and ideas about this kind of advice.

Finn, 30: What's more important: Looks or personality?

Personality, definitely. But looks are not irrelevant

Finn’s big crushes do tend to gravitate toward a specific type of person*, but also Finn’s guidelines for “kissable” seems to basically be “identifies as a girl” so what’s the truth

Will make out with a 7 foot tall crab (girl) !!! No problem!!

*Like, it’s definitely not a secret that Finn is weak to tall, authoritative women.

But ultimately, personality is way more important, for sure

finn, 16 and 43

GOOD ONES

Finn, 16: What do they consider a deal breaker?

I FEEL LIKE ON PAPER, Finn consciously would consider someone being a “”criminal”” a dealbreaker, but i think in reality, people are complicated and it would really depend. I dont think he has the life or the realtionship experience to really know for sure what things would be true dealbreakers for him

Finn is VERY forgiving, both of character “flaws” and of actions, so i think in the context of him really liking someone, it would be TOUGH to find that line. And not necessarily in a good way

Finn, 43: How important is it to them to make a relationship official?

VERY

He wants that TITLE

Like, in just that way that he’d young and it feels valuable and important that things are “official”

And I think in like, a broader sense, Finn likes realtionships in his life of ALL kinds of have like, real, official contexts. It’s easier to feel secure in them and their longevity

Such good answers!

3, 9, 35, 36, 45 for Finn

MAKE IT RAIN

Always count on you to give me TOO MANY (positive)

Finn, 3: Longest relationship they've ever been in?

36 is for xim obviously

Flame Princess, for sure. I mean they started dating at like 13/14 an broke up somewhere in the 15 range? So like, even conservatively they were together for at least a year....even if it was very like, baby’s first GF, especially in the beginning

Finn, 9: What's the most important part of a relationship, to them?

Oh man, this is a hard one!

I think, honestly, even in a like, very teenager way, the most important part to Finn is the companionship aspect. His relationships are very driven by genuinely wanting to spend time with someone and Finn likes spending A LOT OF TIME with people he likes

And again, like not to keep harping on Finn’s (very REAL) abandonment issues, but i think he’s continuously anxious about being left, even on a subconscious level and someone being There and Present are really, really important to him

Finn, 35: Would they consider themselves romantic?

Yes, but is he?

also probably yes, but like, in a weird way. I dont thnk he has much of a natural instinct for romance....perhaps because so much of what that IS, is cultural!

I think maybe it’s more accurate to say, Finn is A ROMANTIC but maybe not....actually very romantic.

An important but subtle distinction

Brings dead mice to his partner

KSFDKSdfj

Okay, but exactly.

Whatever the dog equivalent of that is

Finn taking FP on a date to a dungeon is a really good example

just, has a weird idea of what is fun and maybe isnt....to the the other person

I mean, some of that is just age/experience, but i dont think he has good instincts for it LMAO

Finn, 36: Could they date any of their current friends?

(Xim edition, as specified)

Obviously he IS dating one of his friends, so he COULD LMAO

Finn could probably date anyone if the circumstances were right! but he will still need to go through some real growth before he starts seeing boys as dating options in a serious way, which are now most of his dating age peers

Right now Finn gets that dubious distinction of being the suspiciously straight friend in your otherwise queer friend group and we all know how that goes

Right now human teenagers in general are a very big draw for Finn

but teen boys are like, a particular source of fascination just because of the layers of like "these are like ME" (he does with girls too, finn's not a gender essentialist LMAO)

I AM DYING

He really is.... the suspiciously straight one...

The token straight

Also I love “these are like me” stuff. We GOTTA do more with

Just, the inherent weirdness of this shit

finn the token straight jksdhfkjshfk

13, 17, 27, 44, 49 c:

safelybeds: I REALLY WANT TO DO MORE WITH IT

our TDM hit some really good cultural clash notes

what was Finn's entire thing with Fern if not a depressing craving to have someone like himself in his life. I feel like was very mired in a loneliness of not having humans or people or a similar age around and is something he IS getting to have now

(do you like how this stopped being about shipping and became about Finn's loneliness? classic)

GHEIXMWOD

IT REALLY DID HUH... it isn’t about Finn if his weird lonely existence didn’t come into it somehow

THATS REALLY WHAT IT ALL COMES BACK TO I GUESS

13: What's one thing they regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?
45: Have they ever "destroyed" a relationship?

These are the same question for Finn, so

Finn completely nuked from orbit his first relationship by manipuating his girlfriend’s feelings to fulfill his gross teen boy fantasies and he REALLY REGRETS IT

It’s a thing he’s learned from and moved on from and that they hav reconciled (although it too like, a year? More?) but i think it’s one of those cringey things you think back on and are like “REALLY WISH I HADNT DONE THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE”

17: How do they know it's time to end a relationship?

He doesn’t! Finn hasn’t had to end a relationship himself yet, and I think recognizing that time would, at this point in is life, be really hard to impossible for him

Finn is absolutely one of those people who goes through life getting dumped and never doing the dumping

27: Do they want to get married one day?
Yes, he definitely WANTS to, or expects this to happen. Right now Finn has pretty straightforward, traditional expectations of life...which is very funny considering there has NEVER been anything straightforward or traditional about Finn’s life. I think his views are in the process of evolving....mostly Finn just

Doesn’t think a lot about the future?

Not in a BAD way, he’s jsut very OF THE MOMENT

And he doesn’t live in a world or a lifestyle that necesitates that kind of pre planning. He doesn’t need to think about college, or 401ks or things like that, it’s just not culturally baked into his thought process

44: Would they consider themselves "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?

I don’t think Finn would CONSIDER himself these things but he’s DEFINITELY the first two

I think he has the potential for jealousy but, not intensely?

But he definitely has a strong tendency toward clingy or overly attached. Finn is pretty independent overall, and kind of enjoys doing his own thing a lot

But especially early in a realtionship? Annoying. Wants to hang out all the time.

49: How do they define "cheating"?

Probably pretty straightforward like, anything physically romantic/intimate with another person behind someone else’s back

I am loving all of this

Perpetually a hanger on

Finn’s capacity for clinginess and being a total wad is so good

We love a bad boyfriend

Like, innocuously bad

Well meaning bad

Annoying, really

EVENTUALLY HE’LL...NOT BE THAT. Or not so bad. But being young and insecure in so many things that specifically come up with dating is a curse

UWEH FINN

Im lol though

"I'm not clingy"
"WHY aren't they HERE WITH ME right AT THIS MOMENT D:"

Im not over the hell that probably is dating Finn on ximilia

No escape

“Oh you’re going to get breakfast? I’ll come too : ) “

sorry 2 ziggy,

GSDAGAGDS

I GENUINELY LOVE IT SO MUCH

NO ESCAPE

NO SPACE

It’s not good