We're going to my uncle's funeral. I asked Sam if we should go. She has a car, I'm kind of at her mercy lol

So she called father dearest and he was like "Nah, don't go. No one expects you to go".

I was a little offended. Since when is a funeral meant to be an obligation or expectation. They aren't for that

They're for the living to help find closure if they didn't and find peace in moving on while celebrating the life lost.

So I argued with father dearest on the phone trying to explain that expectations didn't have anything to do with it.

It was more. He attended everything he could for us and then some. Why would we not go??

SO ANYWAY. I probably guilted Sam into it

Or she understood the perspective I had. He was the only relative from my mother's siblings (of which my mom had 5) who actually kept in touch. Regular phone calls, regular visits, gifts for holidays and birthdays while the other 4 siblings made no effort or contact.

RANTING ASIDE...................

We have to leave at 6am tomorrow to get to Philly by 10 for the viewing followed by the funeral.

I am insisting we get cheesesteaks for lunch but idk what cemetery we're going to but I know Chubby's is near the funeral home so we'll see what we do

WHEN IN PHILLY

So Sam still wants to "do something" for her weekend and not just a funeral. I get it.

AND OF ALL THE DAMNED THINGS

"Oh, let's just go to Rehoboth!"

So our itinerary is a Funeral then The Beach.

We used to go to Rehoboth every year growing up and my uncle always came with us. So did other family, mainly my dad's side. It was a mis-matched family reunion. When my mom was alive several of her siblings and their families came too

But long-term, my uncle was the only one that joined us every year

So this whole trip is going to be oddly cathartic I think

going to that specific beach seems like a good way to honor him while also treating yourself i think

Yeah, that wasn't her intention LOL She was just like I NEED SUNSHINE.

But yeah, it works out nicely.

Philly cheesesteak yes